Anyone familiar with Filipino wedding traditions???

dinnaming

Hi all,

I am Filipino and my fiancé is British.  I am Catholic and my FH is atheist. Perfect together We'll be having an outdoor ceremony and a friend, who happens to be able to perform wedding ceremonies, will be officiating.  To satisfy the Catholics, my wonderful FH has agreed to participating in a private blessing in a church the next day.

Here's my question....  does anyone know if its possible to still do the traditional Filipino chord, veil, and arrhae during the civil ceremony??? Besides blessing the coins, it does not appear to have any religious basis or meaning.  I think it's possible but I don't want to offend any Lola's or Lolo's coming to the civil ceremony.  

Thanks in advance for any input.

kara811

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[QUOTE]Hi all, I am Filipino and my fiancé is British.  I am Catholic and my FH is atheist. Perfect together :) We'll be having an outdoor ceremony and a friend, who happens to be able to perform wedding ceremonies, will be officiating.  To satisfy the Catholics, my wonderful FH has agreed to participating in a private blessing in a church the next day. Here's my question....  does anyone know if its possible to still do the traditional Filipino chord, veil, and arrhae during the civil ceremony??? Besides blessing the coins, it does not appear to have any religious basis or meaning.  I think it's possible but I don't want to offend any Lola's or Lolo's coming to the civil ceremony.   Thanks in advance for any input.
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Hi fellow Pinoy! LOL. I am actually in the same situation, Im Filipino and FI is Caucasian. Im Catholic, and he doesn't have a religion! So ditto with the outdoor ceremony! Im surprised you're able to have a church blessing, my church won't do anything unless he is baptized Catholic! Anyhoo to answer your question, yes you can do those things in the civil ceremony(I won't be doing them, it takes too much time and practice). But if you want them done that way, make sure you find an officiant who are familiar with those things, this is the other reason why I'm not doing them. Cus it's hard to find an officiant that knows this tradition. And  as for Lolo's and Lola's, mine are perfectly fine with having it the "American" way.. I'll just be incorporating other filipino things like my lolo wearing a barong, and having the money dance. And my favors and escort cards will be made of native things frome the Philippines. So if you can't do those ceremonial things, then you can think of other ways too! Hope this helps! :)