IDK what the etiquette is for this but,... We're paying for our own wedding & we both have big families & they ALL want to come. Some are offering to pay for themselves. Would it be wrong to mail a heartfelt letter explaining our position & letting our family & friends know that everyone is welcome but that we cant pay for them? How do I do this? My fiance is Military & we're doing it in Orlando (we live in Fort Lauderdale) @ a hotel that offers a package for service members. It only includes 10 family members & is an additional $125pp. They will allow us as many ppl as we want. So we would be happy to have everyone there but they will just have to pay for themselves. HELP!