Extra jobs for those not in wedding party?

hartmanc

There are several friends and family members that I would like to be a part of my day, but don't necessarily want them in my wedding party. What other jobs or responsibilities I can ask them to do?

2dBride

Hmm...  In a Jewish ceremony, you could have chuppah (canopy) bearers, readers, and people to give each of the seven blessings.  But without knowing anything about your ceremony, it's hard to say.

andamu

I'm going to ask some readers and have a relative sing, but that's it.  I don't think there's much more beyond reading and singing that's traditionally considered an honor.

[Deleted User]

Pretty much what stage said.

You could ask them to be a reader, gift bearer (for a Catholic ceremony), pass out programs, be an usher.

Muffin'sMom

Jobs???  I hate that term.  It makes it sound like you are giving children something to do to keep them out of trouble.

trix1223

If they are given an invitation and attend, then they will be part of your day.  And they'll enjoy themselves far more at the party as a guest than if you give them a made up pity position like guest book attendant, cake cutter, punch pourer, or program hander outer.

hartmanc

Thanks! I actually had completely forgotten about ushers, and that helps a lot

I didn't mean "jobs" to be seen as negative, I just didn't know what else to call them... so no need to jump on my back about it. But thanks for your very helpful nonexistent input anyhow.

Also, one more question... There is a Kindergartener (5, almost 6) I'd like to ask to be my flower girl, but I have known her older sister longer and am closer to her... except I think she's too old to be my flower girl (she's almost 10), but we're not close enough that I'd want to ask her to be a junior bridesmaid (not to mention the uproar that would cause with several of our family members that are around her age)... I fear asking the 10 year old's sister to be my flower girl and not finding something "honorable" (not just a "job") for the older girl to do would cause her feelings to be incredibly hurt.. would it just be better to go without a flower girl? Am I being too... I don't know, nice? Should I not be worried about her feelings? Gah! Help me out!

bethsmiles

10 isn't too old for a flower girl. Ask both girls

S+H2011

Are any of them really good public speakers? You could ask one to be MC, although I know for some people this would be more of a burden than an honour. I went to a wedding where the bride's brother-in-law was the MC and he did an amazing job and really made it about the couple.

SuMmErKuTiE

Our RB was 8 and our FG was 10, and we preferred that they weren't too young, because neither of them were crying or needed to be escorted down the aisle and they did great while we were doing all of the BP pictures.