Dollar Dance brainstorming

krmabojo

One of my aunts did the dollar dance and she was the only one because her FI did not like dancing. There is nothing wrong with just havig one person dance.

Half of the people in my family getting married did the dollar dance, half did not. The people who want to dance with the bride or groom dance, the ones who do not want to, do not.

I personally think it is a but odd, but my family always had fun with it.

I would say evaluate how your family is, some might think of it as insulting since they have to pay.

snsbelcher

OMG! I don't have a comment about the dollar dance, b/c personally that is her decision. However, some of you brides should be ashamed of yourselves!! I would be embarrassed to admit that I said dome of the things you people are saying to each other.  Having a wedding is supposed to be a time of joy and happiness, and you people act like it is a social circus!  Stop worrying about what impresses other people, and just do what makes you happy.  I will never ask for any advise from any of you. Can we say BRIDEZILLAS!

trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_dollar-dance-brainstorming?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:58cc6a50-ecd8-45d5-9b08-a6ae32fec530Post:6381d1f8-7682-417b-9e9c-0b6c4112bf74">Re: Dollar Dance brainstorming</a>:
[QUOTE]OMG! I don't have a comment about the dollar dance, b/c personally that is her decision. However, some of you brides should be ashamed of yourselves!! I would be embarrassed to admit that I said dome of the things you people are saying to each other.  Having a wedding is supposed to be a time of joy and happiness, and you people act like it is a social circus!  Stop worrying about what impresses other people, and just do what makes you happy.  I will never ask for any advise from any of you. Can we say BRIDEZILLAS!
Posted by snsbelcher[/QUOTE]

Yep.  2 posts.  snbelcher:  Planning a wedding is a time of joy and happiness.  It's also a time when **some** people suddenly lose focus of what the wedding is all about, which is, after all, the marriage rather than the 1 day party.

**some** people seem to think that a ring on their finger suddenly excuses rude behavior, and become demanding and self-centered.  They think that because they're wearing a big white dress they can now do things that they'd never, ever consider at any other time.  Because, you know, it's THEIR day.

If brides come here asking how to do something that is just WRONG, we're not about to validate that choice just because they have a veil attached to their up-do. 
What I love about these boards is that we will tell people who are about to make fools of themselves that.....they're about to make fools of themselves.  If they want validation, they should talk to their bff's who will validate everything they say so as not to hurt feelings. 

We care about helping people avoid etiquette faux pas. 

Good luck with your planning.

trix1223

That's true stage.  I'd say we're the antithesis of a bridezilla.  And my goal is to keep others from becoming a bridezilla.

krissydawn16

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_dollar-dance-brainstorming?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:58cc6a50-ecd8-45d5-9b08-a6ae32fec530Post:02756689-5c8e-468c-9424-217da6d4a373">Re: Dollar Dance brainstorming</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dollar Dance brainstorming : We did that with all our guests anyway...for free.
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]


Exactly.  FI insists on doing it... so we're doing it for free :-)

babyloveswinky08

I am going to stick up for the $ dance... It is not Rude to your guest... THEY ARE FROM THE SAME REGION AND HAVE BEEN TO 100'S OF WEDDINGS WITH THE $ DANCE!!...

Both my sisters had the $dance... I will not be having becuse it is not tradition where my FI is from and it would be tacky to our guest here! BUT if I was home in the midwest, then yes I would have one...

Who are ya'll to judge them for THIER traditions? You must always remeber that this is  the WORLD WIDE WEB... meaning JUST BECUSE IT IS NOT RIGHT TO YOU DONT GIVE YOU ANY RIGHT TO JUDGE!... IF YOU DONT AGREE THEN MOVE ON, DONT POST..

pixiedust84

My two cents - First off I spend WAY too much time reading all the drama on these boards and I sort of love it.

Secondly I do have to say that I have never been to a wedding with any form of anything where the guests straight up give the couple cash there. I had never heard of a Dollar Dance until these boards and I think if I went to a wedding with one I would have first said "is this for real?" and then been horrified. I'd be even more horrified if I had to pay to get my picture taken with them!

If it's a family tradition and people expect it that's one thing (so yes, luckyme I think you're justified because it's expected - although it's always ok to be the first to break tradition I think!) it's definitely not the worse thing a couple could do. I would never do it though just for the pure awkwardness plus I know my guests have already given so much (time, travel,etc.) to celebrate with me that to ask even for one more dollar seems crazy!!!

It seems as though the dollar dance has evolved into registering and getting awesome gifts. To do both is too much.