Ok, the "spouses of the wedding party" post below, got me considering my situation. Sometimes I take my mum as infallible when it comes to etiquette, but now I'm second guessing her. We have decided to put only our immediate family at the head table instead of the wedding party. My FI has two sisters--18 and 22--who have boyfriends right now. My mum thought it was inappropriate to have their boyfriends sit at the head table with the family. But I was planning on including my brother--29--and his fiance at the head table, which my mum thought was great.
Is this hypocritical? I understand what my mum means. She says boyfriends come and go, and do I really want some random dudes in my head table wedding photos years from now if/when these girls have broken up with them? My FI says he hates the idea of having them there, but I think this is more the older brother protective jealousy thing, and he'd be happiest if they were wearing cinder block shoes at the bottom of a lake.
Maybe I should ask my FMIL what she thinks.
BAH, maybe I'm being ageist here, and treating the sisters like girls and not women. What to do what to do? I do want an intimate family head table, but no hurt feelings.
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