Parents fighting over who walks me down the isle

afisherma

I didn't grow up with my dad, my parents were divorced when i was very young, my mother was the one that raised me, just in the last 4 years my dad and i have been rebuilding our relationship and it is stronger than ever, my mother feels it is her right to be able to walk me down the isle because she raised me, and when i told her i wanted my dad and her, to try and have some tradition with some not tradition mixed in, she got upset, now i just want my dad so i can leave the drama out of the ceremony..... how do i deal with fueding parents and would it be rude to tell them both that i will walk down alone if i have to!!!  Please let me know!!

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I would tell your Mom that she needs to set the differences and the past aside for your big day. I would have both of them walk you down the isle if it were me, but if that isn't what you want or your Mom still is upset, yes, tell her you will do it yourself if you are ok with that. Remember, this is your day and it should be happy, not a time to bring up the past, etc. You will have to live with whatever choice you make, so make your decision on what you really want.

jagore08

Just tell them that it is your wish to have the both of them walk you down the aisle. If one or both of them have an issue with it you can walk down the aisle by yourself.  

As far as your poll, I don't get it.  You should have strangers telling you who you should be seeking approval from.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I'd do both or neither, honestly.

megk8oz

I'm voting that you either have both or neither at this point. I don't think it's really fair of your mom to try making you pick between the the 2 of them.

ceilidhsaunders

My parents divored when I was 7, and my mom and step-dad pretty much raised me.  I didn't speak to be dad for about 3 years but I have just recently rekindled with him in the last year-two.  I'm having my dad and step-dad walk me down the aisle.  I can't leave my step-dad out because he's raised me more than my actual dad...but he's my dad, so I don't want to leave him out either, plus my dad would be devastated if he wasn't able to walk me down the aisle in some way, shape or form.

I think it is perfectly reasonable that you want them both to walk you down the aisle.

pandasquishy

I agree with Meg, I'd go with both or neither.  Tell them that you really want them both to walk you down the aisle, but if they're going to argue about it you'll be walking yourself.