Father and grandfather walking me down the aisle??!

avanvalk1989

My parents are divorced. I am really close to my grandfather, and really close to my dad too... I would really like both of them to walk me down the aisle but I feel like my dad's feelings would be hurt... Any advice? I was thinking I could have one of them on each arm.

culbycheese

Do whatever makes you happy, quite frankly! I'm sure your dad wont mind (hopefully), and your grandfather may be thrilled to be asked. Or he might decline. You never know.

The only issue might be that there isn't enough room for all 3 of you to walk down together... You might have your dad walk you halfway and then grandpa take you to the altar or vice-versa....

Sue-n-Kevin

I think that would be a lovely idea, if both would fit. The idea behind this is that the figure doing the walking is "giving you away" to your groom. Traditionally it's the father, who presumably was the person who provided for you. If your dad provided for you financially, and your grandfather did so emotionally, then I think it symoblizes a lot.

Ask your dad how he feels. If he's not offended, ask your grandfather. Tell them both why you want to do this.

Good luck.

abj2010

I'm having both walk me down the aisle because my grandparents have done as much for and more at times than my parents. My grandpa will sit before we get to the altar and my dad will officially give me away.

jma1983

I had a similar "dilemna".  My dad was absent for most of my life.  My grandpa stepped in and did all the things a dad would do.  My dad is paying for part of my wedding, as he just came back into my life a few years ago.  I didn't want to make my dad mad (and he would've been) by having them both walk me down the aisle.  So, I'm going to recognize my grandpa with a little gift at the rehearsal dinner and I'm up in the air on this, but I might have a special dance for me and grandpa at the reception...just like a father/daughter dance.  But, if your dad is ok with it, then go for it!  Both would be awesome!

avanvalk1989

Thank you so much!