UHHHH

whitebutt

I was completely happy before we decided to get married!  Now we are fighting about every decision.
Regestry
Ceramony place
reception place
and every thing in between.
Grrr
 Is this supossed to ne fun />

trix1223

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[QUOTE]I was completely happy before we decided to get married!  Now we are fighting about every decision. Regestry Ceramony place reception place and every thing in between. Grrr  Is this supossed to ne fun />
Posted by whitebutt[/QUOTE]

Welcome to learning about compromise and working together toward a mutual goal.  Dating and engagement are completely different animals.  Engagement and married are completely different animals.

But let me say that if you're really having trouble listening to each other's concerns and are fighting about minor things, perhaps you're not ready for marriage.  What are you going to do when the really huge decisions come your way:  money, house, and the biggest:  children and how to raise them.

I think if you can't make decisions that are, in reality, not all that important, you'd be advised to enter into premarital counseling to learn some decision making and compromising skills and strategies.

duckie1905

Ditto Trix.

If you can't even get it together enough as a couple to decide on a ceremony location, maybe it is time to start re-thinking marriage until you are able to handle the wedding planning.  Things don't necessarily get easier after the wedding is over.  How are you planning on making monetary decisions, picking a house, deciding if you want children?

aerinpegadrak

If the decision of what presents to ask for is leading to fights, you definitely need to get into pre-marital counseling and work on your communication skills.  Sure, you can disagree about what you want, but if you just can't learn to compromise on your own, you need somene to teach you how, ASAP.  The wedding is just a party, there's much harder stuff that will come up in your marriage.