My fiance's father is a Methodist preacher, so he is very religious. He is a kind man, but often disapproves of my fiance's behavior, such as with drinking, gambling, us living together, etc. My fiance is semi-religious because of this, but is not completely set on having a religious wedding with prayers, religious vows, etc. I, on the other hand, am not religious at all and do not wish to have a religious ceremony. I would rather have it short and simple, and focused more on honoring us as a couple. The problem is his father asked my fiance if we wanted him to officiate. He hesitantly said yes because we had discussed whether or not we were going to ask him, so it was unfortunate that he invited himself. He officiated for my fiance's brothers, and we are the last in the family to marry. How do we let him know we would like more of a simple, less religious-based wedding, in order for both of our families to feel comfortable, without offending him? And is it better for my fiance or myself to discuss this with him? Because of his father's constant disapprovals, he is very nervous about having to discuss this topic. Thanks so much for your help!