Hey everyone.
I need some advice. My fiance and I have been talking about this and we just don't know what to do. Here's the story:
My mom got pregnant at 17 and was never really "with" my dad. I met my dad when I was 7 after my step-dad (who threatened to beat my mom if I was ever told about my bio dad. what an ass, huh?) and my mom got divorced. Of course I loved him instantly, mostly because it was exciting and I had two half siblings from him. I would stay with him, his wife and kids over the summer and loved it. When I was little. After my mom got really into drugs and drinking, she up and left me in the middle of the night (Don't worry, I was somewhere safe =] ) my dad decided I should come and live with his family. I was 10 at the time. About a year later, his wife and kids left us. I spent a year raising myself because he's not a lovey kind of person. I stayed at friend's houses a lot.
One day when I was eleven, he told me he got a job in another state. (which was a lie) I went to live with my best friend, her six siblings, her mom, and her dad, who was my church's priest. I lived with them for about 9 months until my half siblings' mom's parents (get that?) who lived next door took me in. I lived with them until I moved out for college. My PaPa was kind of like a father figure to me while I lived with them.
About 8 months after I moved away to go to college, I met my fiance. About three months after we started dating I moved into his parent's house with him to nanny his nephews (who his parents are raising, their mom is like mine). We lived with them for about 8 months before we got our own place. During these last two years I have become very close with his parents and call them my own.
My dilema.... who should walk me down the aisle? My father doesn't deserve it, my Papa lives 3 hours away, and I'm stuck. Dakota's dad has offered, and although he is the closest thing I have ever had to a dad, I feel he should be there for Dakota, not me.
What I need from you guys is whether I should ask my Papa, one of Dakota's nephews (who are my "boys" I love them dearly), or should I walk myself?