confused

andrea_bishop12

Ok i am confused about a few things. First off I do not have a deffinate date set for my wedding because i am planning it all out now to figure out how much i need to save and when i get the money i am going to go from there. Is this a bad idea?
Second is seating. On my side of the family i only talk to my grandparents and they do not know anyone on his side of the family {because they live out of town} and his family is huge. His grandparents had 11 children and they all have atleast 4 children and some of them have children. Obveously i would like to keep the imeddiate families together but i dont want my grandparents at a table by them selves. what to do?
Third is dancing. We both suck at dancing and i get very nerveous when people are watching me do anything. I am not sure if i want to do the traditional all-eyes-on-us-solo-first-dance or if it would be better/acceptable to do more of a slow first song that everyone can dance to and that be our first dance but not so intense and boring for guest {as there will probably be more children than adults}
Please give me any advice you can. I would really appriciate it.

swtasa

Well prices fluctate constantly on things so planning then saving then planning again you might find you need more money then you thought. The best idea honestly is to say "This si what I'm willing to spend what can I do with it".

It depends on how big of an immediate family you have... at my sister's wedding my mother was able to sit my daughter, my fiance and my little sister's bf at the "parents table" with his parents, sister and grandparents.

As for the dance, you are not obligated to do anything you don't want to do. One good idea is to do like a 1 minute or so of dancing and then have whoever is MCing the ceremony invite everyone to join in :-) Or just skip it all together and just be introduced.

SarahPLiz

1- Budgeting first based on estimates is good

2- worry about seating once you get a guest list together and know the set up of your reception area. Put that out of your mind now.

3- Have an early afternoon wedding with an appetizer, cake, and cocktail reception. These are usually shorter, cheaper affairs, that don't necessarily include dancing. You can still have some background music, though.

If you want to have dancing, then just have your DJ invite other couples onto the floor halfway through your song. YOu don't have to do the whole thing alone. Also, you might want to invest in a few dance lessons to build your confidence!