Unity Ideas

ccsantos23

My wedding isn't unitl 2013 but I am sure as most of you... the second you get engaged your whole world turns into wedding plans/ideas. I am the least traditional person in my family. My sisters both had the traditional Catholic wedding. Both over the top one more than the other. I'll be doing somethin small and simple outdoor ceremony being officiated by my fiances aunt who is a pastor and reception to follow with 100 guests 120 top.
We were discussing the unity candle/sand ceremony traditions. We have two kids each. His are older than mine 22 and 18. My kids are 8 and 11. Does anyone have any ideas of a unique thing we can do at the ceremony joining our two families into one?

TheNick

My FI and I went to a wedding a few years ago where it was the brides 2nd and the grooms 1st wedding. The bride had 2 small children from her previous marriage, so when the groom said his vows, he also added a few more lines in for her children...things like promising to support them and be the best father he could be, type thing. It was so sweet and I was crying my eyes out!
I see that your children and his children are a bit older, but something like this could work.
I hope this helps and best of luck with your wedding planning!

jjolovich

I have seen it done with unity sand where the groom poured then the bride poured with him and then each child added in there own color of sand, the extra vows would also work.

squarepeg72

Ask the kids what they want to do. I have 3 children from my first marriage (girls are 19 & 8, boy is 13). Fh has never been married and has no children. My oldest asked to ne a bridesmaid and was tickled when i asked her to be my MOH. The first words out of the luttlest ones mouth where "so I get to be the flower girl". My son very shyly asked if he could walk me down the aisle. We have tried to include then in a lot of the decisions and let them participate to their comfort level. My children are asking Fh to join our family instead of giving me away. We are also using and hourglass (each person pours in their own color of sand) as a part of the ceremony. Let the children's roles fit their personalities. There are several ladies on the Second Weddings board that are very helpful and there are also some really good sticky posts at the top of that page.

ccsantos23

Thank you ladies for all your great ideas. I have never been married. My fiance has been this will be his 2nd. My kids just adore him since their dad chooses not to play an active role in their life and just does the minimal. I did think about having my son walk my down the aisle along w/my dad. I'm my dads only daughter/ my sisters are from a different father so I do not want to take that away from him but I am sure it'll be great if they both did it.
We are keeping them involved as much as they want to be. It's a little difficult with the age differences.

Keep the ideas coming.

jennipea382

My friends are doing the sand ceremony. She has a kid from a previous relationship and they just had a kid together. She is planning a color for her, him, and either a color for each kid or just one color for both. Their son won't even be 2 yet, so his sister will probably do most of the work ;-)

kimberlin14

my wedding isn't until 2014, newly engaged, yeah! Ne ways my fh has 8 children and i have 4, and they all have parts to play in the wedding but i'm trying to find sum ideas on how to include them all in the untiy ceremony! help! im thinking of taking time for a promise ceremony from the both of us to all of them... with promise rings or something. as for the idea with the son walking you down the isle, i'm doing the same. great idea though for the kids asking fh to join the family!!!!!