Groom's Family Part of Wedding Expences

s-aries8990

The money you contribute is between you and the coule. I agree with PPs and just answer with a "we've already discussed our contribution with the kids" type response. If they want those things, they need to pony up the cashola! The kids set the guest list and they should only plan on what they can afford. Asking you for more money is like asking why someone didn't give a more expensive gift- its inappropriate and none of their business. Ask your son and DIL to talk to them first to see if they will back off, and if her parent's dont, don't blame DIL. Some people are just tacky. AND I'm sure the couple is greatful for any contributions! (If not, then they should be!)

GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_grooms-family-part-of-wedding-expences?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:671aca52-d1e5-4ace-9c37-b86b0a6478dfPost:c9421bcc-58a3-490e-8a16-5fde3dbf19b3">Re:Groom's Family Part of Wedding Expences</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Groom's Family Part of Wedding Expences:Why would you even suggest something as passive aggressive and b!tchy as this?nbsp; She is already planning on a Rehearsal dinner for 45 and I think has budgeted for the kind she wantsnbsp; and btw, Little Caesars has to be some of the nastiest pizza out there.Also, it is not her son's job to call off his FILs.nbsp; That is a conversation that her FDIL has to have with her parents. Posted by GoodLuckBear14 I think that's a bit of an overreaction. I could be wrong, but I don't think she was trying to be passive aggressive. I think she was sincerely trying to offer solutions for cutting expenses. I've been to several RDs at pizza places, including Little Cesar's and while it's obvious you don't care for it, I don't see anything wrong with it. That really came off kind of judgy, GLB. I do agree that the BRIDE needs to be the one to stand up to her parents though.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

I have no problem with pizza rehearsal dinners, however, in this case, with everything that OP has told us and that the problem is the bride's family asking for more money, not that she hasn't been prepared to pay for the rehearsal dinner, I don't understand why someone would suggest this.  Clearly, the bride's family has set the tone for the wedding and I don't get the feeling that OP had ever intended to do something for the RD that did not fit that tone. 

I get being the poor relations of millionaires.  I also know that my parents would have been mortified at the idea of serving them pizza unless they were coming over to watch a football game or just hang out because of the way they looked at us.  The only reason my parents would have ever done this would have been to say "eff you" so that's why I think this was a passive agressive suggestion.

i would only add to OP that the RD is also the responsibility of the B&G.  I would tell the groom that you will give him $x.00 towards the dinner and let him plan it.