I didn't know where else to put this, and I've had a similar duscussion at the Nest, so I could use some advice, input or just to vent.
In general, my mother seems to be jealous of the relationship I have with my future mother-in-law, as it is very cordial, loving, and supportive. FMIL treats me as she would her own daughter, and she only has sons, so I think that enhances the bond- she's excited to have a girl in the family. I like her very much, too.
Sadly, I can't seem to say or do a thing that even remotely involves my FMIL without my mom cringing (and with planning a wedding and having a healthy relationship with this new side of my family, she is bound to come up!). I can hear the dissatisfaction in her voice when anything having to do with her comes up. That makes me feel terrible, because I have a great relationship with my mom, too, and I don't want her to be upset.
Funny thing is, my mom actually does enjoy my FMIL's company-in general, she finds her pleasant and fun, but I guess my mom just feels like she has to compete.
Going forward, she is going to have to accept my relationship with her, but HOW can I make this easier before things get harder (the wedding, holidays, future kids, etc) or am I kidding myself? Help!