Why is this such a big deal?
I do not want a bouquet. I don't like fresh flowers (why kill a flower just so I can hold it for an hour), and I do not want the awkwardness of the bouquet hand off (which is always awkward), and I think the bouquet toss is tacky.
Kudos to the millions of people who DO have bouquets, but come on - our wedding is non-traditional in just about every respect, and my mother and my MIL do not have a problem with anything else except this one thing.
What's the big deal with the bouquet? I researched the symbolism behind this tradition - and there isn't any. Not the tiniest bit. It's a holdover from when people did not bathe regularly - the bride held fresh flowers so that the fragrance would cover up her unwashedness. Since I plan to take a shower on or near my wedding date, this seems like less of an issue.
Do I need to just suck it up and carry one anyway?