Not sure if this is exactly where to place this, so if this is the wrong forum, let me know and I'll move it.
My friend, Caleb, has been one of my best friends for over three years now. He's also a bit zany, so when I first asked him, "Hey, when I get married, whenever that is, would you rather be a groomsman for the guy, or a bridesman for me?" and he said that unless I married his brother (which was an example, not a real possiblity) he'd rather be my bridesman, because I'm his friend.
Flash forward to the wedding that is actually happening. My fiancee has known about my plan to have Caleb be my bridesman, and so he asked me if it would be okay to have his sister be his groomsgirl. I'm ecstatic over this, because it means that we're on the same wavelength, that we'll have two matching non-traditional people in our wedding party.
My family, however, hates the idea. Hates. "It's weird" "I've never heard of anyone doing this before" "Why can't you do anything normal? Why does everything in your life have to be weird?" and my personal favorite from my mom, "I think I'm going to be sick that day and just not come."
Now, my fiancee and I are paying for everything ourselves. If my parents were paying, I'd probably sigh and bow out, because they who pay get to decide.
But gosh darn it, we're the ones paying for this, and we're the ones getting married. Is there a "right" answer on this? Should we just sigh and go along with it to keep the peace? Or should we take a stand on this because honestly, everything that I want to do goes through the same battle (like simply giving my bridesmaids a color and letting them pick out the styles, or using fake flowers instead of real ones or or or or anything)?
September Sig Challenge- Bouquet