My fiance and I had wanted to do some thing very special for his father who has been deceased now for a year. The idea that we had came up with we were both very happy with until we mentioned to his mother and he was extremely upset. We had wanted to set a chair in line with the grooms men that would have a sports coat in black draped over the back and a memorial candle placed in the seat with his name and photo on it. When this idea was mentioned to his mother she became very upset and told us that we were not allowed to do this. I now am stuck! I know idea what would be appropriate and not hurt anyones feelings. any one with suggestions please help.