I have a bit of a strange dilemna. I have been married once before, and my ex kind of blackmailed me into changing my name (threatened to never wear a wedding ring, etc - should have known right then that that marriage wouldn't work!). Anyway, even though I have always been against changing my name, I did it. We had a son, and then got divorced 5 years later. Becuase of my son, I kept my married name, and have now had it for 17 years. I am about to get married to a super wonderful man, but am just not sure what to do about my last name. He doesn't care what I do (he says to just do what makes me happy), but I'm just not sure. It doesn't seem to make a lot of sense to go back to my maiden name at this point. It also doesn't seem right to keep my ex-husband's last name when i'm marrying someone else (even to have the same last name as my son). But it also doesnt' seem right to take someone else's last name again. It's almost like i'm being passed from guy to guy... What I would really love is for my fiance and I to take a NEW last name - one that's new for both of us and to start our own family. But that's the one thing that my fiance doesnt' want to do (change his name). And that makes me more stubborn about having to change mine (why should I, when he won't?). There just doesn't seem to be a good answer. Thoughts?