My daughter is getting married next year. Her father and I divorced when she was 1. I re-married when she was 5. Her bio father has not been involved in her life for the last 20 years, but my husband, the step-dad is and has been. He has two biological daughters of his own and he has never treated my daugter any differently than his own two. He tells everyone he has 3 daughters. My husband and I paying for the wedding with zero help or offers of help whatsoever from the dad.
Her dad's dad (her grandfather) has been involved in her life all along and he and the grandmother have been a big part of her life.
So the quandry is who walks her/who gives her away?
She's arriving in a carriage. I suggested that her grandfather be at the end of the aisle to help her down from the carriage, then walk her halfway down the aisle where he would hand her off to her father. The dad would walk her the rest of the way down the aisle, where he would hand her off to her step-dad, who would be waiting to give her away. As instrumental as my husband has been in her life, to ME, it's important that he be the last one to hand her over to her groom.
She doesn't like the idea of being handed off three times but said she would think about it. Any other suggestions or ideas? I've also said just leave the dad out all together and let her grandfather walk her down the aisle and hand her over to her stepdad. She hasn't said as much, but I feel in her mind, she doesn't want to hurt her grandparents by not having her father (their son) involved in some way.
Thanks in advance!