Wedding Party questions - sisters?

kmcg8r

I'm not quite sure where to post this so I am going to try another board as well. We are having a smallish wedding this September, 80-85 people. I am 29 years old and 1 of 4 girls. All of my sisters are married and I am very close to all of them. When we got engaged, my sisters told me that they would be honored if I would have their children in the wedding, instead of them. One of my sisters will even be 9 months pregnant at the wedding. So I am having their 5 children in the wedding (2 ring bearers, 1 flower girl, 1 jr groomsman, and 1 jr bridesmaid)... in addition I do have other bridesmaids and a matron of honor (my very best friends)...now my question...I still want to have my three sisters involved and honored in some way. What can I have them do? Do I have them just walk down the aisle? Do I have them read some sort of poem? We are having a small ceremony (maybe 15 mins) and do already have one reader, but we COULD have them do a reading also? But then, my fiance said he would want his sister involved as well. Do the 4 sisters do a combination reading? Anyone have any ideas that I am not thinking of??Thanks in advance,Kristen

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Your best bet would be to ask your pastor or whoever is performing the ceremony for how many people you need involved. To me, that sounds like too much for such a short time frame.

trix1223

IMO, let your sisters be guests at your wedding, which is an honor.  I don't really think you need to do more, especially since they specifically asked NOT to be in the WP.

Get them each a corsage.  And then let them enjoy being moms of the kids in the WP.  As a mom, I can promise you that they'll be happy with that.

GL

nontradduo

I agree with trix1223, your sisters requested to not be in the wedding, if you want to give them a corsage or something that's great. 

I am having my 3 nieces and 1 sister act as BMs- no MOH.  My other older sister is a pastry chef and will be making all my centerpieces (sugar art and lots of individual serving cakes for the guests).  She simply won't have time to be in the wedding, so I am honouring her by making sure everyone knows about all her hard work on my behalf and making sure she has a corsage to designate her as someone of extra special importance.  But again, I agree with trix...being a wedding guest is an occasion where you are already being honoured.

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oops, I didn't read well. I would just let them be a guest as well. They will probably want to take pics of their kids since they are in the wedding.

InfamousQBert

you could do several things that involve them, but don't make the ceremony longer.

1. they could be the house party if you don't already have that. it's like the woman version of the ushers. they hand out the programs and what not.

2. they could be escorted down the aisle before the parents, with special corsages.

3. you could ask them to give toasts at the reception.

4. if there's a portion of the program you're using for special notes to your parents, you might include something there.

5. similarly, if you wanted to, you and your fiance could take a moment during the ceremony or reception to thank specific people - sort of a reverse toast.

6. you could have a special "sisters" dance at the reception. you could all get on the dance floor together and boogie to a fun song like "We are family" or something.