I'm in a sort of weird situation here. It's not (just) the 'my father isn't in my life, who should walk me down the aisle' question. But a little background.
My mom and dad divorced when I was very young, my dad had visitation rights but when I was about 8-9 I stopped going. My mom, though she had full custody, wasn't in my life very much either. Now, it's been literally 8 years since I've seen my father at all (and even longer in the time period before that) and my mom is deceased.
I was going to have my aunt (who did a lot towards raising me and is the closest thing to a mother figure I have) and my uncle (let's going with uncle #1 for now to make the subsequent explaining easier -- who I lived with for a number of years, paid for my high school and was there during my teenage years) walk me down the aisle. Both are siblings of my mother.
I spoke to my aunt yesterday, and I got chastized that her husband (uncle #2) would be offended if I didn't ask him to walk me down the aisle. This is a man who teased me relentlessly for years, made me feel like a servant in my aunt's home and who I feel has helped to drive a wedge between my aunt and I over the years. I don't want him walking me down the aisle. Period.
How do I smooth this over? Who should I ask to walk me down the aisle? And, really, am I crazy (or a Bridezilla) for feeling like my aunt (and uncle #2 if he gets uppity about it) are completely out of line? It would be one thing if it was a situation where two different people wanted to walk with me because they both helped raise me and loved me. But this is really more about an ego thing (and I'd say I was crazy for thinking that, except when I told my fiance the situation, he immediately said basically the same thing).
Thanks in advance!
