father daughter dance. help please

cowgirlmomma21

I lost my dad a couple years ago and im not sure how to get past the father daughter dance or who to do the dance with my mom wants it to be my step dad who i dont get along with so i dont want him to.

bunni727

Sorry about the loss of your dad.

I would skip the dance altogether.

[Deleted User]

I agree with bunni, just skip the dance, you don't want anything ruining your day (like a forced dance with a guy you don't like)... you'll have time for that during the dollar dance!

aragx6

Feel free to skip it. It is important for my FMIL to have a dance with my FI, which will be hard for me but I would never deny them the pleasure, but I won't be dancing with anyone for a father/daughter dance.

My FMIL was confused by my insistence not to do one -- she kept saying "Well why don't you ask so and so. I'm sure they wouldn't mind!" I'm sure they wouldn't mind, but that's hardly the point. I don't want to get up and be the center of attention and be sad on a joyful day. Anyone I ask would be nothing more than a replacement.

FWIW, my mom will be walking me down the aisle.

caterpillar85

You could totally skip it, or dance with your mom (or brother if you have one_! Maybe to one of your dad's favorite songs. It might be a little emotional to do that but it's an option.

willywally5

We have a similar situation with daughter's wedding. Her FI lost his mother a few years ago, but my daughter (she's actually my stepdaughter) REALLY wants to do a father/daughter dance as she and her dad are VERY close. They could have just opted to do the father/daughter and leave it at that, but the plan is now for the groom to dance half a song with me and half a song with my daughter's biological mom. I'm glad he feels close enough to us to do so, and think it will be nice. (And if he changes his mind, it would be totally understandable as well.) It is so sad to not have his mother around for the planning and such; I was lucky enough to know her (even though she passed long before our kids ever got together) and it would have been fun to have her around for the planning and celebrating!

AurorasEnvy

I'd skip it, or even if you decide to do something I wouldn't dance with your stepdad if you don't like him.

MegenQ

Sorry about your lost. You and your mother could dance to one of his favorite songs, maybe holding a flower to symbolize your father.