Question about dress superstition...

kcgregor

I know it's bad luck for the groom to seem the bride in her dress before the ceremony, but is it bad luck if he sees the dress without the bride in it?

SarahPLiz

I don't think so, but then its just a superstition. To me, they are self-fulfilling prophecies.

However, I want it to be a surprise so FI has seen my dress on the model on the website, but I have never in my life been mistaken for a model. It looks totally different on me, so it will still be a surprise.

suz62984

It depends on if you believe in superstitions.  To me a superstition is just a manipulation tool.  That being said, do what makes you happy.  If you can't wait for him to see the dress than show him.  My FI doesn't want to see it at all. Plus, I can't wait to see his face the first time he sees me in the dress.  I want him to have no idea

sarges05girl

You know, your post got me thinking where this superstition came from in the first place. So I looked it up. Here you go: http://www.snopes.com/weddings/customs/notsee.asp

And IMO, most superstitions are based on medieval fears and wisdom (ex: "knock on wood" noise of knocking on wood deters evil spirits from wreaking havoc on your plans), so I'd say to take this one with a grain of salt. I didn't want my H to see my actual dress or me in it before the wedding because I fell it takes away from that moment. The anticipation is gone when he sees you, even if you do "first look" photos. Others don't feel this way and I don't knock them, it's just not for me.

He did however, see a picture of my dress on the model. I showed him the top 3 dresses that I was trying to decide between and asked him to tell me his opinion on each of them. He actually said of my dress: "I don't really like this one. It looks too plain." But when we had some alone time after we were married on the wedding day, he said I looked stunning in the dress. And I told him that it was the one he liked the least. He didn't even remember looking at the dress. But now since we've been married 4 months, every so often he'll tell me how pretty I was on the wedding day. So it's definitely a personal preference moreso than superstition nowadays.

agk0125

I think the whole thing is ridiculous. If it was up to me I would have taken my FI dress shopping. He's the one that's clutching his pearls freaking out that he doesn't want to see the dress. Silly FI.

I see it more as a tradition than a superstition. If it's a tradition that you want to hold up then go for it, but I highly doubt your future happiness rests on your FI seeing a piece of silk hanging in the closet.