Chuppa/Procession questions! - please help

rebraf77

Hi .. getting married in june (!) and having some issues with the huppa/processional
my father really wants to hold the chuppa but grooms father does not - would it be weird to have my bro, dad & 2 groomsmen hold the chuppa while the grooms father sits? Do the parents sit or stand with us??

Also for the processional, who walks when and with who? I keep seeing groomsmen together and then bm but that sees odd? is it not male/female pairs? (we are reform )

Also where is the chuppa in all this? Is it up there or someone carries it down the aisle? when does do they put it up ? (again this just tye type they hold, not a free standing).

HELP! and thanks

Avion22

If you look under "Cultural Wedding Boards" on the left, there is  Jewish board.  The ladies on there might be more helpful (I've only been to one jewish wedding ever, and I'm pretty sure their chuppa was free-standing).

rebraf77

Thank you!!! i was looking for that but couldnt find

lalaweddingdiva

My chuppah is freestanding. Every chuppah I've seen is freestanding. It is secired w sandbags usually and rope. Ask your rabbi he will know

lalaweddingdiva

I think holding poles is orthadox thing, but it's symbolic chuppah should be able to stand on its own

lalaweddingdiva

From Rabbi all said Chuppah could be freestanding or held up. The holding is symbolic way to include both sets of parents in your ceremony.