I've seen a lot of Father-Daughter tradition issues on this and other boards... I'm facing the same issues, and the complications are the things of nightmares! Why do we do this to ourselves? Why can't we have parent-daughter traditions, instead? Or family traditions?
If you are close to your dad, then wonderful!!! Have him walk you down the aisle; do a Father-Daughter dance. If it's right, it's right! When my best friend got married she did all of those things, and I can't imagine her doing or wanting anything different.
I have a father and a step-father, and I love both of them. I want both of them to feel honored and special on my wedding day. But why does tradition tell me to ignore my mom? Logically, she's the one I'm closest to, she's the one who raised me, and she's the one I know I can always count on. Why would I honor someone with whom I'm not nearly as close more than I'm honoring her? I hate feeling guilty for wanting my Mom to be the main person standing up for me the day of my wedding.
So even if I can make my "fathers" understand and feel OK about my decisions, my guests are still going to question it. I know it doesn't matter what they think, but I feel like if I don't have the traditional father-daughter things then I'm displaying my family dynamics for everyone to see... That seems like a stress I just don't need on my wedding day.
Every other day of my life, this is NOT an issue. Why is it such a big issue on the most important day of my life? Am I the only one who thinks these expectations are ridiculous?
Ok. Rant over. Thanks for indulging me...