Going down the aisle.

cbbgtownlovers

I really like the idea of walking down the aisle on my own, as an independent adult who has decided who to marry on her own.  However, I do want to honor my parents, both of them not just my dad, in the sense that they both brought me up to be who I am and approve of the man I've chosen to marry.  I thought that perhaps I could have them walk down the aisle together at some point during the processional.  I'm just not sure where in processional order to fit them in at. Right before me after everybody else?  We will have the full standard WP.  Also, we like the idea of having my FI meet me part way down the aisle and we walk the rest of the way together as a symbol of our entering into marriage together.  Has anyone seen this done and how did they do it.  Did the groom start in the middle of the aisle and wait as the WP went by, or did he come down from the front once the bride entered?

cbbgtownlovers

Actually, it just occured to me that since my parents never married (they called off their engagement and split up when I was very young, they get along but there are still some wounds that haven't healed) walking down the aisle together might strike a nerve for them.  I don't want to do anything that might make them uncomfortable.  Maybe have them walk separately, and then just fit my dad into the traditional order.. Mother of bride, Father of bride, Mother Father of groom, then everyone else.  What do you guys think?

TheVirginians

If you are close to your Mom, discuss this with her. Discuss with the officiant also, as that person has probably seen everything. Either walking down the aisle alone or with both parents works.

cbbgtownlovers

My FI's friend is going to get ordained and marriy us so he probably wouldn't know.  Just asking my parents how they'd like to do it  is probably the best idea.  Also, my FI's father has been remarried since he was a kid, so would his mother go first followed by dad and stepmother?  

Thanks for the help ladies, I always thought my wedding would be so straightforward and easy to plan because I'd never really given it much thought. Now that I'm getting into it I realize how many small details there are and how many other people's feelings there are to consider with every detail.  No wonder people get all stressed out, though I'd still never  turn into crazy bridezilla, I could never live with myself.  Though maybe for those women its just easier not to care about anyone else?  Anyway, thanks again. 

cmkk

I really like the idea of meeting your fi 1/2 way down the aisle. I'm a Quaker and in my religion the bride and groom actually walk in together for the reasons you spelled out in your post. Maybe you could honor your parents at the reception?

lmcooper86

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_going-down-the-aisle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:c02ad7af-2016-43b4-ad4b-63784d8b044dPost:8c483036-a1fa-40da-a8e6-1f3fbdf89f7b">Re:Going down the aisle.</a>:
[QUOTE]I really like the idea of meeting your fi 1/2 way down the aisle. I'm a Quaker and in my religion the bride and groom actually walk in together for the reasons you spelled out in your post. Maybe you could honor your parents at the reception?
Posted by cmkk[/QUOTE]

<div>cmkk, that is a really nice tradition, I had never heard that! </div><div>
<div>I attending a wedding a few years ago where the bride and groom walked in together, as they were a team and were entering into a marriage together. This wasn't a religious decision, just something that was right for them. They had their parents enter first, then the BM and MOH, then the bride and groom. I think having your FI meeting you halfway is a lovely idea.</div></div>

lagonza

If you still want to honor your parents in the processional, you could walk down the aisle to them and have them give you a hug and kiss just before the altar, as is tradition for the FOB to do after walking down with her.  And if you want to include all of the parents, that could work with or without you walking down with your groom.