Renewal Ceremony

serenity5689

Anyone have ideas on what we can do for Renewal Celemony? We already have ideas for Reception and all the fun and games but just during the Celemony we are kinda stuck in.

Thing is... keep hearing over and over again that for a Renewal, the dress should not look like a wedding dress or it should NOT be a wedding dress. Nowaday almost all simi-formal dresses are the same. My Prom dress was originally a wedding dress (Did have a small train too) but my mom ordered it to be pale Pink instead of it's original white. So really cant be a judge of most dresses.

serenity5689

You got anything better to do? Oh wait, I see u been here since 2008 so I assume after all this time you just dont have any fun in your life.... *patting your back* I pity you... 

Now, Im having a celemony, I dont give a rat's ass what others say rather I can or not. I dont have a dad to walk down the aisle so that's not gonna happen, but I will walk down the aisle with my daughters. My son will also be involved and waiting with his Daddy at the front. I will wear a wedding dress, but not too FORMAL (never wanted a FORMAL wedding with big puffy dress anyways). My dress will not be PEARLY WHITE (never wanted that either) and I do want an additional color added to my dress. We will have a priest. We want to have our vows said just like a christian wedding. I do not plan to just say "THIS IS MY WEDDING" no, this is my "RENEWAL of VOWS WEDDING."

Now, I ask what else other than exchanging vows should be included in a renewal wedding. I never been to an actual wedding before, renewal or bridal (I was not there for my husband's grandparents, I saw pictures and was told of it).  My husband is baptist, I am Pagan. Our priest is open religious and yes he knows of my religion and has no problems with it and will do whatever me and my husband want. I might have a Pagan Priestess (A nearby coven leader...Im not part of any Coven though) but I think we will just follow my husband's belief this time. 

That's what we want but the question I have, what should be included in the celemony? I heard people doing flashback of the past pictures in Bridal Weddings. I saw candle lighting. I saw and heard some things but I really dont know what to do or expect. I dont want the celemony to be TOO long but I want it to be at least entertaining. After the celemony we plan to have a BIG BLASTED BBQ with a HUGE Mudpit to play in. I know we will have 2 whole pigs roasting as well as many other foods. The Reception isnt a problem, I got TONS of plans for that. Celemony is a different subject.

And YES, we plan to have NEW rings because both of ours were very cheap and mine broke after 2 years and my husband lost his at work (working as a mechanic, he took his ring off and put it in his toolbox, after work he couldnt find it). We plan to have matching and more pricy on the rings (dont have to worry about him taking it off with the job he works now, LOL).

[Deleted User]

It's C-E-R-E-M-O-N-Y. Maybe if you didn't come on here with fists swinging looking for opposition we might have been willing to help you. I pity you and your poor attitude. 

serenity5689

Pardon me if I dont have the perfect spelling but dealing with alot of self-centered hags on here all day can get anyone's attitude up. Ask a question and get bombed by the completely opposite of what is asked, nothing even related to what is asked, can really set your mood cold. 

[Deleted User]

Name-calling is not a good idea either. You may want to check the rules again for coming on these forums. If not you risk the chance of getting banned.

serenity5689

I apologize for the name calling. Is there a bashing rule too? There is ALOT of bashing going around making it alot difficult to get the answer those are looking for. ALOT of those who been on here for a LONG time are doing a bit TOOOOOOOOOO much bashing and less helping. 

GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_renewal-celemony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:c10de5b5-7f4b-44ee-91eb-74fd378dc103Post:50c35598-44e3-4337-926b-79687f5d4a3a">Re: Renewal Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]I apologize for the name calling. Is there a bashing rule too? There is ALOT of bashing going around <strong>making it alot difficult to get the answer those are looking for</strong>. ALOT of those who been on here for a LONG time are doing a bit TOOOOOOOOOO much bashing and less helping. 
Posted by serenity5689[/QUOTE]

This is your mistake.  You are asking questions looking for a certain answer and then acting like a petulant child when you are told over and over by different people the reasons why your plan is not a good idea.

serenity5689

Again and again, that's not what is being asked. I didnt ask if it was a good idea or not. I asked what is normally included in a ceremony rather it is a renewal of vows or if it is a Bridal Wedding. Im not the childish one here. Going on someones every post and bashing them with the same option they already told u they are not interested in hearing is HARRASSMENT. I dont want to hear your options on rather my idea of a vow renewal is approved by YOU. I asked what is normally in a wedding ceremony. Again GET ON THE TOPIC asked. And even if you think I cant change your mind, you cant change mine either, GET OVER IT AND STOP HARRASSING ME.

serenity5689

Thank you

Typical and Not Typical is a good way to put it. 

As for the dress, Im just looking for a simple "Ball Gown" like dress. Nothing fancy and dont plan to have it in PURE white, hoping to have a white with a bit of a green tone (almost same concept as a OFF WHITE but it's a very pale green)with a brown sash. Lace-like... Similar, I might just make my own, but kinda like this 

http://www.dhgate.com/2012-lace-trumpet-gown-allover-beaded-ivory/p-ff808081353c09ec01354242c8bb754c.html

Probably raised in the front, long in the back or uneven all around... no train.

No Veils, will be white Cowboy hat with green and brown band and boots. (will be on a local ranch).

As for the bridal party, Im never plan to have one, just my kids. I did have a HUGE argument with several girls when I mentioned that we were renewing our vows over who will be in the bridal party but I have no interest in any of that and told them all no. my 3 girls are enough and we will walk together. 

My Man and little man will be in cowboy outfits, nothing fancy. And it was my husband choice since we are a large family, for the Guys to meet the Girls at the end the aisle. 

With an open mind, please, how does that sound?

serenity5689

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_renewal-celemony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:c10de5b5-7f4b-44ee-91eb-74fd378dc103Post:9f48b62a-2584-41e4-9ba1-10bfe84ae5b4">Re: Renewal Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]I gave you a great website with guidelines for a vow renewals over on the Invitations board.  Why don't you just follow that?  It sounds like most of your plans are similar to it, except for the ballgown dress.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

<div>I did browse through it but havent read it fully yet. My husband is FINALLY out the door so I can have more focus on what Im reading without his interuptions <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> </div>

Kamakanani

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_renewal-celemony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:c10de5b5-7f4b-44ee-91eb-74fd378dc103Post:8b3371f9-5c7f-4f8a-89a3-4692614f2c05">Re: Renewal Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you Typical and Not Typical is a good way to put it.  As for the dress, Im just looking for a simple "Ball Gown" like dress. Nothing fancy and dont plan to have it in PURE white, hoping to have a white with a bit of a green tone (almost same concept as a OFF WHITE but it's a very pale green)with a brown sash. Lace-like... Similar, I might just make my own, but kinda like this  <a href="http://www.dhgate.com/2012-lace-trumpet-gown-allover-beaded-ivory/p-ff808081353c09ec01354242c8bb754c.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.dhgate.com/2012-lace-trumpet-gown-allover-beaded-ivory/p-ff808081353c09ec01354242c8bb754c.html</a> Probably raised in the front, long in the back or uneven all around... no train. No Veils, will be white Cowboy hat with green and brown band and boots. (will be on a local ranch). As for the bridal party, Im never plan to have one, just my kids. I did have a HUGE argument with several girls when I mentioned that we were renewing our vows over who will be in the bridal party but I have no interest in any of that and told them all no. my 3 girls are enough and we will walk together.  My Man and little man will be in cowboy outfits, nothing fancy. And it was my husband choice since we are a large family, for the Guys to meet the Girls at the end the aisle.  With an open mind, please, how does that sound?
Posted by serenity5689[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>First off, the dress you linked to is not a "ball gown" type dress.  <a href="http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=69520d57-13b6-49a6-8d14-4f70e633e92a&categoryID=32e5a88c-cbf1-498f-afcf-dbfca138c5d3&pg=1&colorId1=" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">This (click)</a> is a ballgown type dress.  </div><div>
</div><div>Second, it sounds like you have the necessary/typical elements of a vow renewal, which would be the renewal of your vows.  That's usually all that is involved, which may be why you're not getting more suggestions.  Really, all that's required the first time around for a wedding is the exchange of vows, so, anything extra is just that - extra.  </div><div>
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