Uncomfortable Dances?

kristlew

I'm really NOT a dancer - to slow or hip hop type music...FI would like to do a first dance but i'm worried us stepping back and forth for 3 minutes is going to be very awkward looking.  Any suggestions?  Also, I think my dad and his mom would like to do the father/daughter & mother/son dances...so more suggestions for those would be welcome

fishieballerina

You can take dance lessons. Often the teacher will let you take private lessons and will even choreograph a first dance for you.

Also, a lot of people can't dance. They rock back and forth and all the guests ooo and aww and take pictures.

Traditionally the couple's first dance is what starts the party, so people will most likely not dance until you two get up there.

jennylove810

Ask your DJ to cut your music to about 2 1/2 minutes.  Any DJ worth his salt in editing software should be able to accommodate this request easily, and a 2 1/2 minute first dance is easier on your guests than a 4 minute one.

aerinpegadrak

I'm not a fan of choreographed first dances, personally, because unless the bride and groom are both very talented dancers, it's still just as stiff and awkward.  We were considering choreography (since we both do ballroom), but I realized I didn't want to be running footwork in my head rather than focusing on the important stuff like my vows.

Just keep the songs short.  Your DJ should be able to cut them down for you.

megk8oz

I'd reccommend just picking a shorter song, or have your DJ edit whatever you pick to be shorter.

Don't do a choreographed dance unless you're both "dancers" ... usually when couples that don't typically dance do this, you can see it in their faces that they don't typically dance.

Besides, unless the song is super-long, I don't mind when a couple doesn't do anything "special" for the first dance ... because just them dancing together all happy is "special" enough.

trix1223

Ditto aerin.  Your guests are not looking for polished dancers for your first dance.  They are looking for a couple to be looking at each other lovingly as they dance; sharing quiet thoughts or laughter with each other; peerhaps a sweet kiss, and then maybe an adorable "dip" at the end.  Have your dj play 2 minutes of the song and then fade out.

Your guests will be far more charmed by that than an uncomfortable choreographed dance.

Same with the parent dances.  Talk to your dad while you're dancing with him.  It's a great time to share a very private moment between the two of you.  Again, have your dj shorten the song, but IMO, these dances can be wonderfully emotionally charged moments for you.

SarahPLiz

YOu can either cut the song short, or ask the DJ to invite other guests onto the dance floor halfway through. I've seen that done before and it went over really well. The same can happen with the parent dances, or you can tell the DJ to play whatever song and you can dance with your parent, but not tell the guests, so they are all still on the dancefloor. I don't think you need to be alone on the dancefloor with your parent in order for it to be special.

kimka83

You could also just do these special dances while others are also dancing.  If you feel awkward, there is no need to call everyone's attention to you dancing with your loved ones.  After the dancing has started for everyone, take some time to dance with your DH during a sweet slow song. 

Santorini2011

Try something fun like salsa.  It is a basic step but could be fun.  Start taking lessons now but you'll be fine.  Maybe you guys could talk to an instructor and let them find your style.

brokenhallelujah

I'm not doing one. Neither of us want to. Nor do we have the time and money to pay for dance lessons for something we really don't want to do.