Daddy's girl also has a great step-dad - ideas needed!

Speechie1970

I am a Daddy's girl.  I talk to my dad every day and we are close.  I also have a step dad who is a wonderful man.  I have never seen anyone else walking me down the aisle but my Dad.  My step dad recently asked my mom if he or my dad would be walking me down the aisle.  My mom told him that if the bride gets along well with her biological dad he walks her down the aisle.  I was grateful she broke this news to him and now I am trying to find a way to include him without making my dad feel badly. 

We are having a cake and champagne style reception with no dance.  We will do the traditional first dance but I was kind of hoping to skip the other dances because I think it will get pretty monototonous if our guests have to sit through a first dance, a mother/son dance, and then two daddy/daughter dances.

I got a book on wedding etiquette for divored families from the library just to see what it said about including a step dad.  It quite literally said "be creative."  That was the answer.  So - I am asking you knotties for help!   

How do I include my step dad when I am really close to my real dad?

apricot239

Have you considered having them both walk you down the aisle? Or you could consider doing a combination mother/son and father daughter dance where you dance with your biological dad and your FI dances with his mom and the same time, but halfway through the song you could switch and dance with your step dad. That way your dad gets his moment with you and you get a special moment with your step dad as well.

mysticl

I'm asking my step-father to do the blessing at the reception.

Knittibell

Ask your stepfather to do a reading

Mention him in a toast ie: "thank my family... I'm very lucky to not only have a wonderful mother and father, but an amazing step-dad as wel..."

tldh

A friend of mine start down the aisle with her dad.  Halfway down, they picked up the step dad and the three of them finished the walk together.

You could also have a separate dance with the step dad at the reception.  Braid Paisley's "He Didn't Have to Be" is a great step dad song.

Belle2Be

I just went to a wedding last weekend and she did the husband wife, father daughter,  and mother son dances, they didn't do the full song for the latter two so it really didn't seem a long time. What about doing some fun "cut in" act with the step father once the daddy daughter dance is nearly over, and have it be a different style dance? (like if the first one is slow this one would be a little more upbeat?)

Speechie1970

Thanks girls! 

dwest2201

I was previously married and had both walk me (one on each arm) down the aisle.  There was no way that I could decide one over the other as they were both important to me and had both contributed towards the cost of the wedding.

This time it will either be my son or my dad alone, in the past few years my step-dad has retreated from my life a lot (my mother passed away) and my father has really stepped up and taken on the role that they shared previously.