Due to finances, my fiancee and I are having a very small wedding ceremony on the Vineyard with our bridal party and immediate family. The week after, we would love to have a big party at our house with all of our extended family and friends. With that said, would ALL of the women being invited to the 'after party' be invited to the bridal shower, or would only the women being invited to the ceremony itself be invited to the shower? We would LOVE to have all of our family/friends at the first ceremony, but we would forever be in debt to the bank. Any helpful thoughts?