My father passed away about 6 months ago. The way he died was unexpected and awful for the entire extended and immediate family. I am still planning on having a first dance with my fiance. It is rude or heartless of me to not want him to have a mother/son dance? I don't feel comfortable having a first dance with anyone other than my father and I feel like it will seem unbalanced for my fiance to have a dance with a parent and for me to not. Because my family was so affected by my fathers sudden death I really don't want to draw a lot of attention to that because I don't want my wedding to be a sad day. But still, I hate to have my wedding without somehow mentioning my dad. Help?