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Girfts for Parents

My Fiance and I got my parents really nice gifts (a custom made diamond ring and watch) for helping planning and insisting on paying for our entire wedding, even though we could have done it ourselves, and being amazing parents to me as well as accepting my fiance into our family by helping us with our new home, taking us on trips to Europe, etc. Overall, they have been awesome parents, and we want to thank them by presenting them with these gifts during the ceremony.

The only problem is that my fiance doesn't want to get his parents anything at all because they haven't been helpful at all, haven't offered to help or pay for anything at all, and his mother was even reluctant to come because her boyfriend didn't want to, among other things. He thinks they don't deserve a nice gift. I partly agree with him, but I don't want to cause any hurt feelings, and if we do get them a gift, it's not going to be as nice or extravegant as the ones we got my parents. So, what to do here? Not present my parents gift in front of everyone to avoid hurt feelings?

Re: Girfts for Parents

  • I understand where your FI coming from but i would give it to them in private maybe after the rehearsal dinner or right after or right before the dinner.  No reason to start any drama
  • this is the same boat we are in. my mom=no help.  FI's mom=reason we are able to have a wedding at all.  we are gettingboth moms the same figurine (the willow tree ones, i love them).  then we are giving his mom and pair of pearl earring seperately so no one has hurt feelings. 
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