No father/daughter mother/son dance and no garter/bouquet toss?

jCoakley

After talking it over with my FI we decided not to do the father/daughter mother/son dance (his mom is not involved, my dad and I are not mushy) AND not to do the garter/bouquet toss (I think the garter toss is horrid, embarrassing and inappropriate to do in front of my whole family). Is this going to mess with the 'flow' of the wedding? I'm worried that the wedding guests will get bored or the reception won't flow right without both traditions.

NadiaT1980

I don't think your guests would miss it, but your parents might, so I would check with them. Even the most stoic caveman can get sentimental when he is dancing with his daughter at her wedding- so if he would like it, I would go for it.

Annas2013

Do what makes you happy.  We're doing all of those.  The dances, because they're important to our parents and would make them happy.  And honestly a dance isn't that big of an inconvenience for us.  The garter and bouquet toss are going to happen because we're one of the first couples in our circles of friends to get married.  So there will be plenty of single people at the wedding.  And why not?

If you don't want to do those then don't.  It's your day and you can do it however you want .

Lisa50

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_no-fatherdaughter-motherson-dance-and-no-garterbouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:da248c15-e69d-4b69-a69f-c504b0761ae6Post:e39e2644-87b5-44fa-ab76-c1f96f9f9fe4">Re: No father/daughter mother/son dance and no garter/bouquet toss?</a>:
[QUOTE]I've been to weddings that have had any mixture of these things and I don't recall anyone commenting on it. I actually wasn't going to do the garter toss but my <strong><font color="#800080">MIL gave me a garter set at my bridal shower so I had to do it after that </font></strong>and was kinda annoyed about it. We chose to do the dances and while I don't regret it I will be honest in that the people in the background of the pictures look pretty bored. I doubt anyone will care if you don't include these.
Posted by jmichlik[/QUOTE]

Sorry your MIL bullied you into doing the garter toss.  You're much nicer than I would have been.  I would have accepted the gift, sent her a TY note and tossed it in the trashed once I got home.

Kate0558

We are going to do the father/daughter dance.  I would skip the mother/son one but i worry my FMIL would be upset. I see no reason to do the bouquet or garter toss because a large majority of our guest will be either married or in a serious relationship... there will be like 2 or 3 people up there. But FI is dead set on doing it anyway... idk why. lol