i just want opinions from people not trying to take sides...my better half and I found out that I was pregnant (much to our surprise) not quite four month after we started dating (we were 18). we had been talking about marriage and all before we found out and we knew that we both wanted to get married and build a house and start a family together, we just weren't planning on so soon.
well after his family found out, they weren't to pleased because we both were trying to finish college and hadn't been together long at all, it seemed like every other topic was about how we needed to hurry up and get married before we had our son so that we could count him on taxes, live together in family housing, and qualify for more financial aid, and they were worried that i was going to leave (which was NEVER going to happen) and want child support..not the reasons we wanted to get married for at all...so basically to shut them up we went and signed the papers in front of them his sister and my parents...not the way either one of us wanted to get married at all, we both were really upset because none of our grandparents were there, my sisters didn't get to come and our friends weren't there, and then to add onto it a couple weeks later we find out that our grandparents and our friends were upset with us because they didn't know and weren't there so they felt left out and like we didn't want them there. after i finally got them all calmed down and told the situation i thought everything was going to be ok...no more drama.
well apparently i was wrong, me and my husband decided that we want to do the wedding "vow renewal" our way the way we wanted to do it the first time the way it should've been done to begin with, well now that his mom knows that we plan on having the vow renewal (in 2013) on whats now our five year anniversary she thinks that its pointless and that we're just going to waste our money (were
not going all out on anything, its going to be an outdoors "wedding" with ALL OF OUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS that wants to come, and we're paying for everything, and don't expect anything from anyone), and my best friend, who i'm also wanting to be my maid of honor keeps questioning me because she says that she doesn't understand why we still want to have it if we're already married, and now it seems like more and more family members are asking the same thing even though they've all known all along that we had our wedding planned, that we really were not wanting to do what we did to begin with and that the only thing thats changed is the date, but everyone questioning us is making me start to question it, i know that its really what we both want to do and when i ask my husband if he still wants to do it he gets mad and wants to know why im changing my mind. so after listening to all of that what do yall think? please be nice
i just dont know any one else in this situation to ask, everyone else i know thats married got to have their fairy tail wedding the first time around when they wanted.