Dad-Stepdad Question

Stefanie2106

Long story short. I have divorced parents and lived with my mom and stepdad full time except every other weekend I was with my dad and stepmom. Overall, I'd have to say my stepdad has done more for me growing up than my real dad, even though the past few years my real dad and I have become closer.

The other day my mom said something about my stepdad wanted to either share walking me down the aisle or have a role in the wedding.

I don't know what to do. I don't know of any roles my stepdad could do. Any advice or opinions would be great. Feel free to ask questions if you need more info to help give advice. Thanks!!

mizri

Could you possible have two father-daughter dances?  The first with your biological dad, the second with your step-dad?  Or talk to your dad and see if he would be willing to share the walk down the aisle?  HTH

Jami-Lynn

I am in the same situation.  I am having my Mom and Stepdad, (and my fiance's mom and dad) walk up the asile ahead of the bridal party to recognize them as our parents.  We will also be thanking them by name in our speech.
 
At my sisters wedding she had my Stepdad act as the MC.  Unfortunately it didn't go over very well. He was pretty nervous before hand, and ended up making a few inappropriate remarks in his speech.  If you don't think that this will be an issue, it really did mean a lot to him to have a special role.

HisCB

i dont have a dad but im not really close to my stepdad, but i think it will mean something to him if i include him.

my little brother will escort my mom down the aisle then my 2 older brothers will walk me to the back of the chairs (the property is set up that i will have a little walk to get to the chairs) then my stepdad will be waiting for me at the back of the chairs to finish walking me.

this is if the weather is good, the ceremony will be inside and i will walk down some stairs at the back of the room, if so, my brothers will be at the bottom of the stairs and walk me to the aisle.

maybe, i am still undecided on that.

vlwilkins57

I am in the exact same situation!  I thought of all of the different ways of including the both of them without hurting their feelings, and I am going to have them both walk me down the aisle, one on each side,  I think it will be adorable!

sevatipari

I'm walking alone.  my stepdad gave me away once and we both agree I'm a independant grownup woman who can give herself away.   My step dad is getting the father daughter dance though .  I was going to do 2 one with step dad one with bio dad cause I was slowly getting closer to my bio dad again but the way he reacted when I told him i was getting married made me rethink that.  he actually said it was our funeral.  I was going to have stepdad give me away and biodad marry me (he's studying to become ordained and will be a pastor by the time I get married) to cut out hurt feelings but biodad pulled his crap (he also said he'd marry us "if we were lucky").  But step dad and I talked and he was like I raised you to be a strong proud independant woman you don't need a man be he father or not to give you away you can do it yourself it's your choice.  and he also offered to pay the difference on my dress (its 300 over budget and fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves)  dad saw my eyes light up when I showed him the pic and he was like go get it ill cover it.....I love my daddy!!!! (daddy being stepdad not biodad)