who should walk me down the aisle?

jlovito

Hello all! I'm just having a delemma, I'm not too close with my father and my step father has been there for me for the past 10 years. Any suggestions on who should walk me down the aisle? Please help....

pandasquishy

It should be the one who means more to you.  Or both of them could walk you.  Or you could walk yourself and have your FI meet you half way.

kissamary

I'm kinda in the same boat.  I think I might have my mom/stepdad, Dad, and fiance's partents walk down together after the bridal party, then flower girl, then me alone.  I have a long aisle, so that kinda freaks me out, but I love them equally, and honestly, I don't want to be "given away". 

I found a ceremony coordination that has the bride walk alone and the officiant introduces the parents with: It is appropriate that you, the family are here to participate in this wedding. The ideals, the understanding, and the mutual respect, which these two bring to their marriage have roots in the love, friendship, and guidance, with which you have provided them.  Then each set answers if they stand with their children in the marriage. 

It's a nice way to honor them without upsetting anyone, or at least I hope!

golden1215

One can walk you half way and the other the remaining half- to symbolize the dual role they have played in your life.

toethumbs

I have the same problem, except that I'm not close with my stepdad either. I don't respect either my dad or my stepdad. But while my fiance doesn't want either of them walking me down the aisle, he doesn't want me walking alone (which was what I wanted to do). If anyone were to walk me down, it would be one of the elders at my church, and that would be wonderful. But if your stepdad has been a dad to you more so than your biological dad, I say go for it. There are no rules that say you can't walk alone either. Do what feels right to you.

Samwise16

I have you exact same situation.. down to almost the exact years with a stepfather.  Let him walk you down the aisle.  Just realize that when you tell your dad about the situation it might not be pretty... but would you rather just appease someone and let them walk you down or be happy with who's giving you away?  Think long-term.

Legend73

I'm in the same situation as well, except I am close to both my Dad and Step-father.  I've decided to walk out with my Step-father and have him had me off to my Dad half-way down.  This way I feel I have honored my step-father and my Dad still gets to give me away. I'm lucky, my parents are all still friendly enough that my Dad and Step-Father will shake hands during the exchange, which I think is sweet!
Good Luck!

thatjessie

I personally am having my dad walk me down the isle but one of my really good friends was in the same situation and just decided to walk alone

StephB1185

I understand your situation!  In my case, I'm closer to my step dad, but he doesn't not accept my relationship and now hasn't spoken to me in almost a year.  My real dad on the other hand has always tried to support me, but he was in the military and so that kept us apart more.  BUT, my real dad has decided to not be so prejudice about my relationship.  I would love for both of them to walk me down the aisle equally, but it may just be my real father, depending.  Or maybe my mom can walk me down, we're very close!