Divorced Parents

jenn102111

Hello wedding world! I am hoping that SOMEONE SOMEWHERE can help me out. My parents are divorced  (I know I'm not the only one) and I'm in need for some ideas on how to incorporate my step-dad into my wedding. My husband-to-be doesnt seem to understand what the problem is. I was thinking of having stepdad walk me half way down the aisle and meet my father in the middle and continue to the front. I am reading a lot about 2 dances and such but we all already know I will be dancing with him anyway throughout the night. I don't want to hurt any feelings, does anyone have any other ideas?? Thanks in advance and congrats to you all

fairytale15

I have the same situation but I grew up in my mom's house and saw my dad and occasional weekends and holidays as he lived 4 hours away so I was more raised by my mom so I wanted to include her as well as both step--parents because I consider all of them my parents.  Initially I had planned on having all four walk me down the aisle as I wanted my mom and dad but didn't want to exclude the step parents but I think it will look awkward since the aisle is too small.  Now I'm toying with the idea of having my fiance or the best man walk my step mom and step dad down to their seats right before the processional then I walk down with my mom and dad and then also do a dance with my stepdad at some point, just special for us, not necessarily as big a deal as the dance with my dad....it's so hard making everyone feel as important as they are to me!  Good luck with yours!

MairePoppy

As a mom and step-mom, I think you are worrying too much about creating special ceremonial roles for your parents and step-parents.

Get them all corsages and boutonnieres. Seat them all in the front row. Immediately before the procession,Father sees his wife to her seat and returns to wait with you,  Fi's parents may be escorted by their spouses, MOB may be escorted by her husband, wedding party follows,  Bride may be escorted by her father.

Your  idea is a good one, too, especially if your Step-father played a large role in your life or is hosting the wedding.

As far as the dances go, the fewer special dances that you have, the better. Nothing kills a party like forcing all the guests off the dance floor to watch. Could you have one dance, shared by B/FOB, G/MOG. Later in the reception, you could dedicate a song to your step-father, but invite all the guests to join in.

mandctaft

My father and stepdad are walking me down the aisle at the same time. I don't like the split thing. At the reception. They are both getting a father-daughter dance. My biological father first, then my step-father. If your stepdad is important to you, and you want all the father stuff with him too, you shouldn't offend anyone.

kimmish86

My biological father would have a heart attack if I tried to include my step-father (who raise me from the time I was 6 years old, and did a pretty stellar job; I mean, just LOOK at me!). This is going to sound CRAZY, but I went to my step-father (who is the level-headed one) and I explained that I was going to do all the traditional stuff with my biological father to avoid drama, but I wanted him to know that he was the man who raised me, and I loved him. I told him that I knew he would be the bigger man by letting my dad get his way, and he totally understood. It was a weird bonding moment for us, because I was able to validate his role in my life with words, where as my biological father is going to be getting gestures.

jenn102111

Thanks everyone! Its so hard making the decision on what to do and who is going to feel which way. I wish everyone luck and if I find anything else I will post!!

kennazebrowsky

if they get along i would have them walk you down at the same time. make sure to discuss it with your "real dad" cause he might get offended by it.