Hi ladies... I'm in a situation and really needs some opinions! It's somewhat complicated. My fiance was pretty much raised by his mother (and I love her!). His Dad has been in the picture, but not really as a "father." Fiances last name is (for example) John Smith(moms name)-Jones(Dads name). Everybody knows him by his mothers last name, he only uses his dads when it's something formal, like a bank account. My dad was the first of our family to be born in the U.S. I have a lot of pride in my last name and I feel like it's a direct connection to my dad. Anybody in the U.S. (and probably Italy) w/ my last name is related to me, somehow. My dad is ill and really not doing well. I hope things get better, but right now we have no idea what will happen. A part of me is freaking out because I want to keep my last name. My fiance wants me to take his moms last name. Part of me does too. 1, so we will be "The Smiths." 2, so our children will have the same last name as the both of us. Fiance has mentioned dropping his dads last name so it's less complicated and so that when we have children it's simple. Buuuuut he's kind of dragging his feet. I don't expect him to change his name, I just don't want to take his TWO last names. And part of me wants to keep my own, a large part of me!!! Any other brides to be, or already married women have these reservations??? Is it just part of getting married? IDK what to do!
