Ok, so my FMIL was all excited about our engagement. She doesn't have any daughters and this is her 1st son getting married. Originally she said she was going to throw a wedding shower for us. (We are from diff states so it's not possible for his family to be present at the shower my sisters are having)....I think she was kinda nervous about helping out as traditionally the brides family does most of the planning.....we've tried really hard to include everyone in the plans thus far and recently his cousin has decided to get married before us and they've recruited her to help with their wedding...Which is fun for her because she has total control over that one and not ours....The situation is she recently called my sister to ask if she could help with the shower they were planning because "she has her hands full with the other wedding"....my question is should I be offended that she's not throwing one for us now? And is it typical for the Mother of the Groom to have something. I don't want to seem greedy about gifts, but my FH is upset that his family won't get to participate. Lastly, his cousin has offered to throw one, but I don't know if his mom will feel bad. They are from a small town and many ppl assume that she is having something. Should I let his cousin host a shower for us? I know it's a lot of questions, but I appreciate your input, thanks!