Stag's

tnkrbll1976

I know typically the BM handles the stag. The BM's wife (who happens to also be my future sil) has taken over everything. She had tickets made up and numbered them but then told my fh that his brother (the bm) was only taking 25 of them and that he (fh) has to do the rest. From my understanding, like the bride isn't supposed to plan her bachelorette, the groom isn't supposed to sell his own stag tickets. Then the BM is getting ticked because my FH wasn't asking for the money up front.

I'm just getting really fed up with the future in-laws to the point we both are contemplating calling off the BIG wedding and just running away to get married.

Beachy730

My fiances stag is the same type of party.  Yes it may be a "fundraiser" as some of you call it, but its not tacky if thats what is done in your area.  Every stag party that I know of in my area (Western NY) has been this same way, so it is the norm and nobody finds it tacky.  Some are jack and jills, but most are all guys.  FI's is guys only.  Its at some type of rented out hall, like a VFW, and guys buy a ticket for $20, which gives them beer, food, and raffle tickets for all different prizes, and yes, "live entertainment" (aka strippers).  Some of the raffles at his are liquor, liquor items such as tees and hats, gift certificates to restaurants and stuff, and there are separate tickets being sold for a TV.

I guess in a way its the guys version of a bridal shower.  Its not tacky for a bridal shower where people give gifts and cash to the couple. 

In response to your question tnkrbll, it is the responsibility of the BM and other groomaman to sell the tickets, but your FH might sell some.  My FH is taking some to sell to the guys in his office since none of the groomsman know his work people and he is in another city.  I actually was even given some tickets to sell to my family members and stuff since the guys in the wedding don't know them either.  I feel wierd selling tickets, but I'm only gonna mention it to my family members and thats it.  You or your FH should talk to his brother and explain to them about it.  And if your FH is selling tickets and not getting the money up front, thats his choice since ultimately it would be money that would just go to him anyways.  Don't completely change your wedding just to avoid dealing with them.  If it really comes down to it, cancel the stag and have a jack and jill at a local bar that you and your FH plan together. 

tnkrbll1976

thank you dnbeach. It is greatly appreciated. yes i had brought a couple into work knowing my fh or his bm wouldn't get ahold of them. thank you again.