Chinese Red Envelopes

lilshortgal

My fiance and I are planning a wedding reception where half of our guests are used to the American custom of buying gifts off registries, but the other half is familiar with giving Chinese red envelopes.  We want to honor the chinese red envelope tradition, therefore not registering for gifts at stores.  However, is there a respectful way to let our guests know on our wedding website? What are some good ways to word it? Thanks!

molly&dale

I don't think you get to choose what people buy or give as gifts. Those who follow the Chinese tradition will do so. Some will give you money even without the red envelopes. Some people will not give cash because they like to pick out gifts. I would register for a few things, so that people know that you need.

JacklovesSarah

I would put together a small registery. I'm only familiar with giving of money at weddings because I grew up in a Vietnamese neighborhood (we're Irish Americans). Your guests probably won't know anything about it and I would just go ahead and make a small registry for them. Otherwise it'll just look like your asking for money.

Otherwise, don't register and don't mention the red envelopes. People who know about the custom with bring them and people who don't, won't.