BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette

suz62984

Its understandable that you are ticked off about her not paying. It doesn't seem like a lot of money to pay. Also, she wants to go but have other people pay for her. I get it, I do. Its just that you can't tell people what to do with there money. Really, you shouldn't be worrying about it because you are the bride and this is between her and the other BMs planning the party.

healyl99

Listen I still don't even have the moral of the story or the hypothesis because all you've been doing is calling me a brat, and all these other names.. so you've been distracting from the point.  It was really unneccessary.  I wanted an honest answer to an honest question.  I didn't need all these names or I picture her as this bridezilla or I picture her as that.  I wanted to tell you the situation and how I felt and what I should do and was my MOH wrong for asking her for money.  I will sum it up myself in one sentence. Okay

Pretend nothing is wrong and don't let it get to me.  Don't bother with it.  On the day of the bachelorette if she wants to chip in, let her.  If she doesn't, oh well.  I know already that MOH and Future sister in law said they would chip in if the BM fails to chip in anything.  That was very nice of them and I should just be happy that they are willing to be so kind.  So therefore I shouldn't worry

suz62984

See not a big deal. Your MOH wasn't wrong for asking her for money but the other BM doesn't have to give her any. Personally, if I were the MOH I would just say... "Hey BM we have decided that instead of splitting it everyone will pay for themselves. Just thought I would let you know" As the MOH I would probably pick up your tab as the bride. This way that girl can come and pay or not. Either way, you are right. You have good friends to offer to pay for your expenses.

AdeleDazeem

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:a622b977-9101-41fd-8a50-c5f227fbe2c9">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>:
[QUOTE]Listen I still don't even have the moral of the story or the hypothesis because all you've been doing is calling me a brat, and all these other names.. so you've been distracting from the point.
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]

But. But. But.

On page one, I gave you a story and told you to find the moral.  Could you not find it?  I'll give you a hint - it was the very last sentence of my story!

sarabear23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:cbd6f29d-9791-4190-8066-036a1536e6aa">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>:
[QUOTE]The only reason why I mentioned what she spends her money on is because I was sure I'd here responses like, "Oh Maybe she doesn't have much money or has money issues and that is why she can't afford to chip in for the Bachelorette dinner".  So I wanted to clarify and be clear that yes she does has money, she just chooses to spend it on herself.  So she doesn't have to come to the Bachelorette dinner.  That is the answer I was looking for.  I didn't think it was right for everyone else to chip in and for her to not give a dime.  I always thought it was customary for the BM's to help out with the Bachelorette.  I didn't think that the bride had to pay for herself. <strong>Call me old fashioned</strong>, but everyone tells me that is tradition and customary for the bm's to throw the shower and bachelorette
Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]

I would rather call you a pain in the ass.

jaimed99

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:62b50c19-3e64-4fdd-bfbc-faa3adc1c2eb">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>:
[QUOTE]You only get married once, so you better make it a good one.<div>Posted by healyl99[/QUOTE]

</div><div>For the record, some of us aren't planning our first wedding...I am planning my third...so maybe this time I can convince my BMs that they OWE me a bach party!  Maybe the reason my first two marriages failed is because I never insisted that my friends throw my a bachelorette party in AC and pay for my dinner and my drinks!</div><div>
</div><div>You still haven't answered a single query about your age...although I'm with the ones who say you're probably 18, in which case, why the hell are you worried about someone buying you drinks...unless you have a fake ID too...</div>

caseylynne21

you sound like a self entitled spoiled brat. being a bm is about celebrating something special with a good friend not acting like an employee to someone wearing a white dress who wants to play a disney princess for a day

shoegal715

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-doesnt-want-chip-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:01bff517-fa84-4a68-94b2-5308049c7ad9Post:f38d52aa-bfb7-4d72-8493-829d7bd920c0">Re: BM doesn't want to chip in for Bachelorette</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow. I was out of town yesterday (in NYC actually!) and I woke up to read ALL of this. 1) EVERYONE - stop the  name calling.   I saw more than the OP doing it and it's not OK. 2) Healy, your MOH was out of line to clue you into this in the first place.  It was an email between her and your BM and SHE was rude to bring you into the matter at all. 3) Maybe the BM is acting slightly bratty if she's not into chipping in for your dinner.  But it's just 7 freakin bucks like you said.  Get over it.  If she's constantly cheap that this sort of thing will work itself out.  But you didn't earn any brownie points with how you handled it. You provided the facts, people responded and gave you honest unbiased advice.  I recommend that you listen to it. <strong>And I also recommend that you consider changing your username to one that doesn't give away so much information.  I was able to find out a lot about you and the internet can be a scary place.</strong>
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I know, I actually sent the OP a PM warning her about this. I found out very personal and detailed information about her in 2 seconds.

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