So I have a little situation with a BM. I've known her since i was in the 6th grade. she lives in another state and we talk like a monthly due to our schedules. i asked her to be a BM but also told her that i understood if she couldnt due to money and she'd be flying in an such. she agreed but now has flipped the script. Told me to buy the dress in my size and she'll get it altered to fit her and i can pay for it. she then can give it back to me after the wedding. She has made comments about not being able to stay after the wedding to help clean up. and i as the bride have offered to stay to help everyone. she has complained about it. now i dont really want her bad attitude to ruin my day. should i ask her to step down or tough it out??