BM gifts

dawn4433

I know you shouldnt get your BM's gifts for only the wedding.. it's really a gift for you.. BUT (of course I think it's different). I found a great idea for a gift that I would easily give to any of them for their birthday or xmas and dont care if they wear it on the wedding (although they probably will).  It's bracelets made in Rowanda by women who have contracted AIDS as a result rape during the genocide. 
http://samesky.com/Home.htm

They  are all strong supporters of women's rights and I think every one of them would cherish the bracelet especially what the employment means to these women. And they all like jewelery.

No showers, no other parties, we are all going department store shopping this weekend to find off the rack dresses they can wear again.. I dont even care if they match.. they just want to.. no matching shoes, hair etc..  Actually I think we are just looking forward to a weekend road trip together and a girly slumber party.

They are the three women that I feel closest to in the world and dont want to come off as giving them something for "me" and pretend it's for them.

Would this be an ok exception do you think?  They are over $150 each and I think every one of the bms would love them...  Thoughts? I hate junk and trinkets so I dont want to do the "something small" too...

tidetravel

I think it's great.  Jewelry is fine as long as your not buying it for them to specifically wear for the wedding. 

And your link isn't working for me.

xoxob

I think it's very thoughtful and appropriate.

mbcdefg

I think jewelry is sucky if it's like the bride saying, "Here, wear this to my wedding, but you are lucky enough to get to keep it afterward!" Blech.

I think jewelry is fine if it's a piece the girl(s) will definitely like and that you picked out with them in mind.

I also think that saying, "This was meant to be worn in the wedding but it's also a gift for you" is O.K. if it's something REALLY high-quality, like real pearls or nice silver/gold or real diamonds. But of course, that's if you are positive that they'd get future use from it. I'd love a pair of real diamond earrings and I think that's a great gift (even if I was asked to wear them to the wedding), but I am sure there are lots of girls out there who wouldn't.

I just think it sucks when brides buy jewelry that matches the wedding color scheme or theme, especially if it's cheap, and especially if everyone's getting the same thing, and then try to pass it off as a gift. I don't think that's at all the case with what you're thinking of.

dawn4433

Thank you all. I was feeling bad after reading all of the posts about "gifts" but I really think they will love the bracelets and support the cause.

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-gifts-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:0638543d-7b91-4e3a-80ee-77ba2f17d4a3Post:6adbc9d3-0331-4348-a7db-0a7794c76f1f">Re: BM gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]I think jewelry is sucky if it's like the bride saying, "Here, wear this to my wedding, but you are lucky enough to get to keep it afterward!" Blech. I think jewelry is fine if it's a piece the girl(s) will definitely like and that you picked out with them in mind. I also think that saying, "This was meant to be worn in the wedding but it's also a gift for you" is O.K. if it's something REALLY high-quality, like real pearls or nice silver/gold or real diamonds. But of course, that's if you are positive that they'd get future use from it. I'd love a pair of real diamond earrings and I think that's a great gift (even if I was asked to wear them to the wedding), but I am sure there are lots of girls out there who wouldn't. I just think it sucks when brides buy jewelry that matches the wedding color scheme or theme, especially if it's cheap, and especially if everyone's getting the same thing, and then try to pass it off as a gift. I don't think that's at all the case with what you're thinking of.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I agree with this 100%.

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leeshab1982

I love your idea.  It's very thoughtful!  I like that they have lots of colors to choose from, too.