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kmmssg

I am sooo going against party line here and I'm just going to say it - she is going to look stupid in those shoes and a shorter dress.  Sorry, but I would notice and whisper about it.  Hopefully other fellow knotties will come along tonight and be far less snarky, and far less shallow and give you better words of wisdom.

kmmssg

Is this the BM that had the warrant out for her arrest?

RamonaFlowers

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-hemmed-her-dress-without-telling-anyone-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:06b07a93-b68b-4c5d-b37e-746be8598c7aPost:53249158-155f-43cb-9b8b-9a5c159adfd5">Re: bridesmaid hemmed her dress without telling anyone (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid hemmed her dress without telling anyone (vent) : how did you know?
Posted by SmallenForever[/QUOTE]

I've been debating this for a while now ... but I'm actually pretty comfortable in finally calling "troll" on you.

missfrodo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-hemmed-her-dress-without-telling-anyone-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:06b07a93-b68b-4c5d-b37e-746be8598c7aPost:5d21cf7e-2268-4b34-9bce-956b18cb8270">bridesmaid hemmed her dress without telling anyone (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]My bridesmaids are wearing floor length gowns. One of my bridesmaids, my FSIL, didn't like the gown (to be fair, she didn't like any dress, so I let her pick the one she liked the best, but she still hates it. I tried to get her to wear pants or something to be more comfortable, but she hated that idea too) and complained loudly about how much she hates the dress since I bought them. Anyways, she asked me what shoes I wanted her to wear, and I told her I didn't care as long as she was comfortable. Well, today I found out that she chose a white pair of heels with neon rainbow colored leopard spots on them and she likes them so much that she hemmed her dress to tea-length so that everyone can see them. I'm just a little frustrated. I chose (and paid for) long gowns because I really liked them. Now she's hemmed her dress (and by hemmed, I mean she took a pair of scissors to the dress and left the hem raw) and is wearing these incredibly bright shoes. I know I can't say anything, but sometimes I wish I could go a little bridezilla and ask her what her problem is.  Anyways, I think I just need everyone to tell me that no one cares what the bridesmaids are wearing and that no one will notice. 
Posted by SmallenForever[/QUOTE]

No one cares what the bridesmaids are wearing. :)  Will no one notice? Honestly, I would notice that, but I would roll my eyes at FSIL, not the bride. If it's really off-putting next to the other girls, you can ask the photographer to take pics of the girls from the waist up, or have a lovely black and white pic of you with the bridal party so the shoes don't bug you as much.   I don't think the difference in hem height will matter, and from a distance people won't even notice her botched sewing job.

RamonaFlowers

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-hemmed-her-dress-without-telling-anyone-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:06b07a93-b68b-4c5d-b37e-746be8598c7aPost:a4545ae3-7078-4677-84da-e647eac4f9a0">Re: bridesmaid hemmed her dress without telling anyone (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid hemmed her dress without telling anyone (vent) : awesome!
Posted by SmallenForever[/QUOTE]

So you admit it?

RamonaFlowers

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-hemmed-her-dress-without-telling-anyone-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:06b07a93-b68b-4c5d-b37e-746be8598c7aPost:1c0cbf3a-1dbb-4577-8e9c-f2d839d4ede4">Re: bridesmaid hemmed her dress without telling anyone (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid hemmed her dress without telling anyone (vent) : Nah. I wish I were trolling though. 
Posted by SmallenForever[/QUOTE]

Sorry, I'm just not buying it anymore.

Either you're fake, or you're one of those people that just gets off on drama. Regardless, your posts are just ridiculous.

mgkg

Smallen I would be very annoyed if I were you, and as a guest I would notice and roll my eyes at FSIL. But a bridesmaid acting like a brat doesn't reflect on the bride and I really don't think the guests will notice or care for more then a moment. Honestly there will be so much to take in on your wedding day that her shoes and dress length will be the least of your concern! I also like the idea from missfrodo about having a picture with the bridesmaids waist-up or black and white. 

Giaspo

Absolutely makes sense. I see how this could blow up into something much bigger because it is family and cause even more drama. You are right; if it was a friend and the bride was choosing to end the friendship that's different. I had an issue with a BM who opted out of my bridal party and honestly, a year later it doesn't matter to either of us and we are still friends, whereas had she stayed in the BP we may not be now. What makes this situation even more challenging is that the bride may resent her FSIL silently for a long time (if it bothers her that much) and that may cause more issues down the road. I guess it's really about how laid back the bride wants to be. There was a similar post about this about six months ago with photos of the BM in her short dress. In the end, it looked fine.

86Bride2B

I've got some comforting news for you!! This will make HER look like a complete idiot.. which sounds like it is pretty well deserved. However, it will make you look very tolerate and patient with the stupid. Congratulations! haha

Peledreamsofrain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-hemmed-her-dress-without-telling-anyone-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:06b07a93-b68b-4c5d-b37e-746be8598c7aPost:96c34867-ea00-4e69-adcc-963e0c49de17">Re: bridesmaid hemmed her dress without telling anyone (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]I've got some comforting news for you!! This will make HER look like a complete idiot.. which sounds like it is pretty well deserved. However, it will make you look very tolerate and patient with the stupid. Congratulations! :) haha
Posted by samrlynch[/QUOTE]

This X2.

Really, she's setting you up to look gracious, elegant, classy, and well mannered.  Only that sort of person would put up with all of her shenanigans with grace.  People will notice.

MsYeck

Or someone could just make an anonymous call to the cops, just saying