Flower Girl and Ring Bearer

melanieky

This may have been answered before, so I apologize...

First, do the flower girl and ring bearer stand up at the front of the church with everyone or do they go to sit with their family members? Or does it just depend on age? Also, if they do stand with the bridal party, where do they stand? Next to the bride and groom or towards the end of the bridal party?

Second, do the flower girl and ring bearer sit at the head table or do they sit with their families during the reception? Or again does is just depend on age?

Thanks!

KJeffs

I wondered all this too??

egm900

Whether they typically stand up or sit down is usually up to the couple/the kids' parents.  My brother does not think my nieces will be good at standing up front the entire time, so they're going to sit with them after they walk up the aisle.  At the same brother's wedding, the FG and RB stood at the front.  I think it really depends on the kid.  If you're getting married in a church, you might want to check with them as well as the person marrying you, sometimes there will be a rule about the kids sit down.

If they stand, it's up to you on where to stand them.  From what I've seen, a BM or GM are given the responsibility of taking care of the FG or RB during the wedding and they stand with that person.  

At the reception, I've never seen a FG or RB at the head table.  Look at the age of your FG or RB, chances are they're going to need help with food, and if their parents aren't in the WP, who would help them?

melanieky

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[QUOTE]Whether they typically stand up or sit down is usually up to the couple/the kids' parents.  My brother does not think my nieces will be good at standing up front the entire time, so they're going to sit with them after they walk up the aisle.  At the same brother's wedding, the FG and RB stood at the front.  I think it really depends on the kid.  If you're getting married in a church, you might want to check with them as well as the person marrying you, sometimes there will be a rule about the kids sit down. If they stand, it's up to you on where to stand them.  From what I've seen, a BM or GM are given the responsibility of taking care of the FG or RB during the wedding and they stand with that person.   At the reception, I've never seen a FG or RB at the head table.  Look at the age of your FG or RB, chances are they're going to need help with food, and if their parents aren't in the WP, who would help them?
Posted by egm900[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I think we are going to ask the FG/RB's parents about standing up at the front during the ceremony, and see what their parents say.

Both my FG and RB are 8 years old so they are a little older than the average flower girl and ring bearer so I think they will be okay standing up there during the ceremony.

As for the reception, I thought the same thing you did, I have never seen them at the head table, they usually sit with their parents. However my FMIL and FFIL (both the FG and RB are from their side of the family) think the FG and RB would be left out if they did not sit at the head table. I don't know, do 8 year old need help with their food? I don't want my bridesmaids and groomens to babysit the FG and RB at the table. But according to the in-laws it would be rude not to have them sit at the head table... What do you think!? Ask the FG and RB's parents on this one too?

LDubHawksFan

I doubt ours will stay standing up there since neither sets of parents are in the WP.  We will see how comfortable they feel at the rehearsal, but I would imagine they will sit with their parents after walking down.  They should sit with their parents, not at the WP table.

Chels&Jimmy

1) I think it's up the their parents.

2) They should sit with their parents, not at the head table. I doubt an 8 year-old would need help with his or her food, but they will be the only ones in their age group at the head table and it probably wouldn't be comfortable or fun for them. 

Pologirl903

My daughter who will be 3  two weeks after we get married is our fg and my fi cousin who is 6 is our rb.  Im sure they will sit down after they walk down the aisle.  She will sit with my parents and he can sit with his parents.  As far as the reception goes he will sit and eat by his parents  and my daughter will sit and eat with my parents and probably walk back and forth between us and my parents.