MOH update

mizri

Ok, I spent a week not talking to MOH, giving her some time, and we started talking again last night.  I haven't mentioned the wedding.  I figured I'd give her some more time before I bring it up.  She's been dealing with some stuff about her mom, and I've been helping her deal with that stress.  I also talked to my mom about it, and she said to tell her not to worry about the cost of the dress, just to contribute what she can.  So, today, she tells me that she talked to her husband again about being in the wedding.  She fronts this by telling me that I will appriciate it.  They are going to take the money that would have been used to be in my wedding and use it to fly his mother in from AZ to TX the week of Spring Break next year, which is the week of the wedding.  She will not be in the wedding because of that.  I can't really say I appriciate it.  

MyNameIsNot

I don't remember the back story, but that totally sucks.  Why on earth would you appreciate that?

mizri

She told me last week that she didn't think she'd be able to be in the wedding because she will be having a baby 6 months before the wedding and her health might not permit travel.  The wedding will be 4 hours from where she lives.  If we were having the wedding in my hometown, it would be 6-7 hours from her house.  We planned the wedding for Spring Break next year, because FI and I, as well as both of the BP members have children, BM is a high school teacher.  More convienent for everyone involved.  We didn't talk for a week after that because I basically told her that she was being an idiot for not telling her husband that she hasn't paid off their car yet, when he thinks they have.  She's been lying to him for months.  She got mad at me for telling her some hard truths.  

saxy414

I remember you talking about this recently--that totally sucks, and I don't understand how that would be something you'd appreciate.  I remember thinking the husband sounded like a jerk, and that she had a few issues of her own (I think...).  Sounds like maybe you should try your hardest to still be there as a friend to her...there's a chance she may really need you.  Good luck though, that's an awful situation.