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bablingbrooke
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DDs
So I just had a slight meltdown on the "bride wants a big shower" thread on M&M because the OP posted a question, got two responses, then DD'd, then proceeded to get called out by something like 10 people for DDing. It was something like her first post.
My first reaction was that the bride is probably a TK user and she wanted to delete what she wrote so the bride wouldn't see it. If it was her first post she may not have known to say "I"ll probably DD so don't quote me." To me, it seemed over the line to call her out THAT much. It seemed disproportionate to the "crime."
I know I'm in the minority on DDs, but maybe on this board (and M&M, which pretty much all of us visit) we could hold off on the "Bad OP! DDs are BAD!" responses in a situation like this? As I said on M&M, it's one thing if the OP posts a terrible idea, gets responses to that effect, then proceeds to have a big meltdown then DD. That annoys me too. But something like this? Not quite worth it, IMHO, and I think it's alienating to new posters who really haven't done anything wrong; they just don't know the ropes.
If I'm completely off my rocker, please feel free to tell me so.
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Re: DDs
DD's usually don't bug me, like in the case above, where it's clearly their first post and they might not know "netiquette" yet.
But when it's somebody who has even 50 posts (So they have a general idea of how the Knot works), and they go down in a blaze of "You don't know me!" and "I feel sorry for your husbands!" and then try to DD everything, I get pissed.
I usually won't call somebody out for a DD, unless it was a hot mess and they were quoted ... in which case, I will just say "Honey, you got quoted. So deleting isn't going to save you" if nobody else has.
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Yeah, I really don't get the point of jumping down somebody's throat when they DD a "harmless" thread. I think most people are so used to DDs being because the OP took her ball and went home ... but I think some new people really might just think "Ok, got the answer to my question. Moving on then", they aren't mad at us, they just figure there's no point in the post being up anymore.
Which, considering that nobody actually lurks anyway, I don't really see the problem in DD-ing a thread about how to plan a shower or something ... somebody's going to ask the question whether or not they see 600 posts with the title "How do I plan a shower?" on the board.
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[QUOTE]FWIW - I think that poster also posted on CC about "how to delete a post." I informed her about the standard netiquette, so hopefully she'll realize not to do it again, or at least to warn people ahead of time.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]
Yup, you are correct Tide. It just seems like there have been so many DD's recently. That is why I have started quoting a lot more.
[QUOTE]The title and responses suggest that the bride wants a big shower, the OP shouldn't have to throw a shower beyond her means, and that while the bride can give her requests, if it's not something she can do, she shouldn't do it (no one quoted it but that's my guess). Then the DD. Now maybe she was really a brat in the post, but since none of the responses suggest as much, I get the feeling she either thought, "Great, that's what I thought," or "Oh crap, my friend might see this, I'd better delete it."
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
Her original post wasn't snotty at all. I see what you mean, I think a lot of people were asking about the DD at the same time, which made it seem as if everyone was jumping on her.
I've noticed this was happening (DDing) on a few boards lately which is why I commented. Although to be honest I didn't look at her post count to see if she was new and didn't know it's nice to let us know she's planning to delete.
That said I stand by my opinion that I find DDing annoying.
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I don't think that "Why did you DD?" is a question that would drive people away, especially in that context. And, even if she hadn't posted the other thread about how to delete a post, she was still informed about why one shouldn't DD in the first place.
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In the days where entire threads would go "poof" once the OP had enough, I used to be livid about it-regardless of if somebody was "new" or not. I've become way more forgiving since the format change.
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[QUOTE]I will say that DD became way less of a grievance of mine once TK fixed it so the entire thread wouldn't disappear with it and actual quoting was enabled. In the days where entire threads would go "poof" once the OP had enough,<strong> I used to be livid about it-regardless of if somebody was "new" or not. I've become way more forgiving since the format change.</strong>
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]
Me too. They never bothered me to the extent they bothered other people, but the format change did help. It bothered me when they said we couldn't repost DDs because it was the OP's right to delete the thread, yet responders didn't retain the right to not delete their own responses. The format change was a great compromise. And the quoting feature is fun.
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[QUOTE]Confused. What is "DD"? I thought it was Dear Daughter.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]
Dirty Delete
Basically just when the OP deletes her original post.