bridesmaid tattoo...

Westbe03

One of my bridesmaids called me to ask me if she could get this tattoo she wanted. I thought she was crazy calling to ask ME...I don't care at all. It would show in the wedding, but hey its not my body. (She wants a moon on her shoulder and stars down her back) I'm NOT a bridezilla and actually think it could be very pretty. Am I being naive? Are there other bridesmaid tattoo horrer stories out there?

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]One of my bridesmaids called me to ask me if she could get this tattoo she wanted. I thought she was crazy calling to ask ME...I don't care at all. It would show in the wedding, but hey its not my body. (She wants a moon on her shoulder and stars down her back) I'm NOT a bridezilla and actually think it could be very pretty. Am I being naive? Are there other bridesmaid tattoo horrer stories out there?
Posted by Westbe03[/QUOTE]
Damnit.  I thought we had ourselves a live one here, girls.

OP - you're right.  Continue being a good and gracious bride who values her friends for who they are.

bablingbrooke

The general consensus on this board is that BMs should not be asked to cover/not get tattoos.  It's one of those things I always ask people: What's the worst thing you think might happen as a result of the tattoo?  Sounds like you asked yourself that question.

I think you've got your head on straight about it.  Keep your level head throughout planning and you'll avoid 95% of the BM problems that come up on this board.

jagore08

So refreshing to hear someone say "it's not my body".  Maybe your BM has heard the horror stories about crazy brides kicking out their BM because they got tattoos or, God forbid, got pregnant!

gottahavashorti

No bridesmaid horror stories, it's more of an overbearing bride issue, and you don't seem to be an overbearing bride.

MissDuke2012

I actually have a large tattoo on my back. And constantly get asked if I'm going to cover it up. And the Answer is NO. HELL NO. Its part of who I am and I'm proud of it.

But, my best friend was asked to wear her hair down in my sisters wedding so it would be covered up, not by my sister but by my sister's MIL. She wore it up, just to piss the woman off.

blackfire5th

Good for you!  My bm's had multiple tattoos showing.  I don't even notice them, they are part of my friends.

ndnikki06

Sounds like a great friendship!  She called to ask you if she could do something on her body.  She thought of you and your wedding first.  Then you were absolutely right that she didn't need to call you and she should go ahead with it.  Wow!  Refreshing!

AutumnFair

Nice to see a Bride that cares about the friendship before some pictures. And to answer your question, I have never seen any tattoos look bad in a wedding, half the time I forget that some people have tattoos (did that with a family friend wedding last Fall, the Bride's sister had a tattoo on her arm and I didn't even notice until I was leaving and I was giving her a hug).

aerinpegadrak

Dammit, another fakeout post title.

Good for you for being a good friend, though.  Yeah, every so often someone pops up bitching about the sheer AUDACITY of one of their friends to get a tattoo.  It's kind of sad.

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE] Yeah, every so often someone pops up bitching about the sheer AUDACITY of one of their friends to get a tattoo.  It's kind of sad.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]
Or get pregnant, do volunteer work the same day as the shower, move to a new town, get engaged, get divorced, gain weight, lose weight, dye hair, cut hair, get a new piercing, focus on more immediate life issues, not wanting to spend their Saturdays tying ribbons on invitations...I could go on and on.  (And yes, every single one of these examples came from a real post on this board.)

andy71781

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[QUOTE]In Response to bridesmaid tattoo... : Damnit.  I thought we had ourselves a live one here, girls. OP - you're right.  Continue being a good and gracious bride who values her friends for who they are.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]
man totally bummed too.  OP you sound cool.

cococabanagrl

I feel the same way. So what if you have a tatto and if it shows, well didnt you get it to show somewhere? It's so refreshing!

mbcdefg

One of my BMs has tattoos (only one was visible with her dress on), but no horror stories. She asked me if she ought to cover it for our church ceremony and I checked with the priest ... and since he didn't care, then I didn't care.

I gave both BMs a pashmina wrap in case they got cold, and the tattooed BM elected to wear it in the church. Once I got my photos back, I saw that there were only about one or two photos showing her tattoo, and they weren't photos I was going to use in my album anyway. Not because of the tattoo, but because they were boring shots of us getting dressed.

I appreciated her asking if she should cover it, but I didn't see a need for it since it's a tasteful design - no naked ladies or swear words. That, I think, is a justifiable reason for asking a BM to cover it.

cococabanagrl

One of mine told me she was going to wait til my wedding was over to get a tat. I was like, thanks but you don't have to do that.

[Deleted User]

Finally, someone who respects their friend and her tattoos. Good for you.

But I do wonder why she felt the need to ask permission.

Westbe03

She was being very appreciative of the fact I had asked her to be in my wedding before she decided she wanted this tattoo. I'm so thankful she did ask me, only because it shows how nice and caring of a friend she is. She even told me she would be willing to do the bottom half and wait til after the wedding to finish the part that would show. It's so scary that brides really make big deals out of tihngs like these, I hope I never run into a bride like that.

CTGirl30

OP - you are refreshing. :-)  More brides should take your stance on things - that was sweet of your friend but totally unnecessary as you know!  I think weddings make alot of people lose perspective and go temporarily insane. ;-)

emilyinchile

To answer your question, there have been multipage threads with people saying "omg, I can't believe she won't cover up her tattoo for your wedding!" These people for some reason think that because tattoos are a choice it's ok to ask your friends to wait on getting them or to cover them - and yet never answer the question of whether they'd demand a BM didn't dye her hair or held off on getting braces until after the wedding.

Glad you are not one of the crazies.

sazatronic

It surprises me that people still freak out about tattoos, since it's pretty much a social norm now-days. Asking people to cover up tattoos is just silly. Way to go you! But yeah, she's being very considerate, maybe she has been watching TLC too much.

meowmix06

Two of my BMs have tattoos on their legs and asked if they should get that tattoo cover up makeup.  I also told them I didn't care, really who is going to be sitting in front of your pictures with a magnifying glass going "OMG, her BM has a TATTOO"?

jlw1492

A little late on this post, but as a bride-to-be with several tattoos (including one on my neck) and with a bridal party full of girls with tattoos, I really don't see the big deal about tattoos at all. I think you're being completely awesome.  I will be covering MY visible tattoos that day simply to appease my grandmother but I see no reason for my girls not to show off their art.