Wedding pary accomodations

Krissimarie

Most of our wedding party is in town, 2 BM are from out of town, but the same town. 1 is coming into town the wed before the wedding for Bachorlette party and staying with me through friday night, but getting a room for the night of the wedding. The other BM keeps hinting that her, her H, and 2 kids want to stay at our house all weekend. We are planning on staying at our house the night of our wedding, and dont really want people to stay with us. I asked all the girls what they could afford for the wedding (ie dress, stay, shoes) and she told me $400 was her top. I found their dresses for $70 and bought their shoes and am paying for their hair and Jewelery. Should I be paying for her room too? I worry about my cat and dog with her daughter, they just had to get rid of their dog because the daughter hurt the dog, and mine is a little dog. Any ideas on what to do with her?

Icedregular

In this case just have your MOH handle her, or suggest the cheaper hotel options in the area.  Do not let your house or any shared areas become even an option to consider.  Don't give into hinting, because next they will be hinting about something else they want.  Your wedding is your day, and when she got married she got what she wanted.  If she didn't it wasn't YOUR problem.  People want everything handed to them - trust me I am getting my share of it too - and they have a million expectations.  You just have to ignore it and look forward to the finish line.  Expect that ADULTS act like adults and take care of themselves. 

nursesarahmay

Kindly explain that your home is booked for the night,( hello, it's your wedding night and you'll be there) and no one would want to be in there anyway because of all the noise. ;)KISSKeep It Simple Stupid

sandybeachesfl1

Are you for real? Who ever heard of someone not knowing enough to know that newlyweds want their privacy on their wedding night?!?!? Especially when you are talking about a whole family intruding on you!! In my book, that is just plain rude. I don't know of anyone who would even consider asking that!! What happened to her $400??? She obviously hasn't spent that as a bridesmaid and is lucky that you have already pitched in for her bridesmaid expenses and now she wants you to provide her with room and board also?!?!? I understand that times are tough right now, but she already commited to the job of bridesmaid (and allowance of $4oo) and knew what that entailed, which was also having to travel and make accomodations. With that being said, if you don't mind her being there beforehand that is up to you, but you will probably have enough on your plate without a whole family of houseguests. Although, she may feel left out since you are having the other bridesmaid staying with you. Maybe you can suggest just HER stay with you for those couple of days instead of her whole family and make it a "girls gettogether" while the rest of her family enjoy staying at the hotel. Or maybe she will just stay all day with you and then retreat back to the hotel to sleep. Remind her that although you would enjoy having everyone stay with you, that it is a hectic time and that you just have too much to do before the big day to have so many houseguests. Also, you as the bride, will need to get plenty of sleep so that you will be rested and stressfree for your big day. Since she is hinting around to you about staying with you, I would do some research on about 4 inexpensive motels/hotels in the area. Get prices and what accomodations and ammenities they have for them to enjoy "on their vacation". Try to word it so that it seems as if they will be on a luxury family getaway, not just a place to stay because she had to come in for a wedding. A lot of places have (besides a nice pool) a jacuzzi, spa, elegant restaurant, tennis courts, etc. Play it up as to how nice it is and "Oh, what a great deal for the price!" Remind her that this is a great time for her and her family to enjoy time together and to get some relaxation. Send her all the information via e-mail (or mail if she doesn't have e-mail) and let her know that whenever she decides which one she wants to stay at that you will be happy to make the reservation accomodations for her if she'd like you to (with HER credit card--not YOURS).